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My will and how to protect my daughter.

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Oopsadaisy12 Tue 06-Mar-18 07:01:20

Just what the other wise people have said.
Write a list of things that you want covered by your Will, anything you don’t 100% understand, keep asking for an explanation until you do understand it, and cross each item off your list when they have been dealt with.
I’m sure I bored our Solicitor to death, I insisted that although he and my DH seemed to grasp all the details immediately, I was often left behind with some of the legal terms, so he had to explain it to me in language that I could understand.
It might be a good idea to get on and do it sooner than later.

OldMeg Tue 06-Mar-18 06:54:07

Definitely see a solicitor about making your will. When you are there explain the situation.

travelsafar Tue 06-Mar-18 06:48:22

Good for you for thinking ahead about your daughter and grandson. Get to a solicitor as soon as possible. You need peace of mind that they are going to get what you want them to get.

This month is called Free will month so google and find a solicitor in your area offering the service. You are expected to make a small charity donation in place of their fee.

Ginny42 Tue 06-Mar-18 03:26:48

I think her husband would only be entitled to any of your money if they remain married for a long time, c. 10 years is counted as a long marriage these days. In a short marriage you take out what you put in as a general rule of thumb. Do consult a lawyer. Sorry you're not well but I think you would feel better if you have peace of mind so the sooner you get it set in law the better you'll feel. Good luck!

stella1949 Tue 06-Mar-18 03:08:23

I would certainly consult a solicitor about this. I can understand your concerns, and I'd be the same if my daughter had a horrible husband. Leaving the house to your grandson sounds like a good way out of your dilemma, but make sure that you cross your t's and dot your i's by getting the whole thing drafted by a solicitor who specialises in wills. He husband would certainly be entitled to half your estate in the situation you mention. It almost happened to me when my mother died - thankfully my divorce had just been finalised before Mum died but he tried his hardest to get his hands on her money anyway. Nasty things can happen when death and money come into the picture, so in your shoes I'd be going to see the solicitor as soon as you can. Good luck !

Daisynance123 Tue 06-Mar-18 01:36:49

Over the course of the past few months that I've been a member of Gransnet,I've come to value the good advice given to those who ask for it.
I am in dire need of some of that good advice now. My problem is this...and please forgive the lack of sutelty :-
I detest my daughter's husband . I cannot even bring myself to say SIL!
I won't bore you all with the details because the problem lies with the future,not the past. Specifically,my will and how to protect my daughter's future financially.
I am 71 this year and in increasingly bad health,so feel that time is of the essence.
My will leaves everything to my daughter and,should she predecease me ,to my grandson by her first marriage.
I strongly believe they will separate or divorce in the future but, should I die before that happy event, I presume he would be entitled to half my daughter's estate on the event of a divorce.
Frankly, I cannot allow that to happen. They have been married for 18 months. Financially he brought nothing to the marriage and for the last 15 months doesn't even have a job.
I'm wondering if one way out of this dilema is to leave my house to my grandson,with the proviso that my daughter be allowed to live in it for as long as she wanted. They live in rented accommodation now.
In a nutshell,that's my problem. Your advice would be greatly appreciated,even if you think I'm completely wrong.