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minxie Tue 06-Mar-18 09:48:13

Hi,
So, I have a dog phobia and I've had it for as long as I can remember.
My Mil has a Dog and I haven't been there for a long time, (she lives two hours away) it worries me for days before hand and him indoors threw me last night by saying he wants me go with him on Mother's day to go visit. We had already booked to go for a Meal here or so I thought.
He told me I was selfish and making excuses, I don't Understand why I would be making excuses other than I'm scared of dogs.OH said they would put the dog in his cage, but that make me feel guilty. You can't keep a dog in a Cage all day and I swear Fil is hating me as his dog is locked in a cage all day. OH does a lot for my aged dad and I feel bad I can't reciprocate
So this Morning he's got up and gone out without word.
I don't know what to do

OldMeg Fri 09-Mar-18 12:43:56

Yes, very dead. So were the frogs, rats and ???? but don’t remember rabbits being used.

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 12:38:20

were

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 12:38:05

Weren't worms for dissection in biology lessons were dead already? In which case loving them or otherwise would make no difference.

And one could always feed the bits to birds afterwards.

Yes, worms are very important. They make soil and are high protein food for lots of other animals, including foxes and badgers.

Alexa Fri 09-Mar-18 09:34:00

Love the photo MawBroon. smileand yetsmile

ajanela Fri 09-Mar-18 09:24:43

Cave woman there has been lots of support on this thread but yours first puzzled me and then made me smile. I hope it did for the OP

cavewoman Fri 09-Mar-18 08:09:46

Wrong thread blush

cavewoman Fri 09-Mar-18 08:09:01

Its an Indonesian pharmacy who sell Viagra !

DanniRae Fri 09-Mar-18 07:56:12

Good Luck minxie - do let us know how you get on!! X

NfkDumpling Fri 09-Mar-18 07:23:40

Is it a crossed line?

OldMeg Fri 09-Mar-18 07:10:58

Well said apotic

MawBroon Fri 09-Mar-18 06:53:59

HUBUNGI SEGERA PEN JUAL OBAT Apparently is Indonesian for “contact seller immediately”

MawBroon Fri 09-Mar-18 06:11:21

Well! Looks like somebody left their laptop open and the kitten has been playing on the keyboard!

Reported BTW

apotikpasutri Fri 09-Mar-18 02:33:04

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Tooyoungytobeagrandma Thu 08-Mar-18 23:58:43

It would be crated not "caged" & for many dogs it's a place of comfort and rest. My dogs go in theirs even though they don't have to and can come out as gate is left open but like to sleep in there. I know quite a few greyhounds and although big are generally gentle dogs. As a huge dog lover I find it hard to understand people who are scared of them but then I have a huge phobia of toads and frogs and don't go out at night speing/summer in the dark if it's raining/wet so can sympathise with the fear. Do try and get help dogs are such giving creatures I much prefer them to humans smile

Caledonai14 Thu 08-Mar-18 23:56:19

I'm so proud of you Minxie. smile

Jalima1108 Thu 08-Mar-18 23:49:14

Let us know how you get on Minxie
Greyhounds are generally very sweet-natured.

Jalima1108 Thu 08-Mar-18 23:33:39

The usual clique are trying to wear me down again

Calling posters who disagree with you the usual clique would make it seem as if you are not a new poster luzdoh but I hadn't seen your posts previously.

confused

MawBroon Thu 08-Mar-18 22:45:49

Oh give it a rest luzdoh and stop stirring.
There is no “cabal” of “watchdogs” except in your overactive imagination.
My family circumstances are nobody’s business but my own likewise my current dog ownership.(a 2 year old greyhound which I keep behind a baby gate in the utility room when nervous visitors come, and incidentally which I also muzzle if necessary although you can see how fierce she is. )
You or somebody got the wrong end of the stick but it is time to stop beating others as well as me about the head with it.

OldMeg Thu 08-Mar-18 22:31:19

luzdoh you are not impressing me at all with your misreading of my posts and that of others. All I’m hearing are excuses, excuses and more excuses.

I respect those who can acknowledge that they might have been mistaken rather than dig themselves into a deeper hole.

luzdoh Thu 08-Mar-18 22:19:49

mcem
I love animals so couldn't dissect a worm! Different reasons same result! Also in Biology A level I had to give up as I passed out over same situation regarding a rabbit. I thought I was going to be ok by that age.....
By then the timetable meant I couldn't do my next choice of subject, so I did Art instead!
Worms are important. Just felt like saying it. No reason!

luzdoh Thu 08-Mar-18 22:14:24

minxie Good luck on your visit Sunday! I'm really impressed that you are going to try and give the treat to Baza. Yes greyhounds are really docile and a bit stupid! I had one. She was so lovely and so elegant.

Did you see the interesting post (aaah so sorry! It's on previous page and if I look my msg will disappear) - so can't check the lady's name, sorry! it was.....
Post from a Clinical Psychologist (CP) explains that it's Community Mental Health Teams now? She says they also do Clinical Hypnosis. These are the safe people I was trying to say about earlier and only using them. For referral -your GP will know anyway.

I look forward to hearing how it went.
lots of love. L flowers

luzdoh Thu 08-Mar-18 22:04:11

Elegran
No. Don' be silly.

Just don't assume we know these things. It's the second time I've had a reply complaining, along the lines of
"If you had been a member longer you would have known that...."
because I did not know MawBroon's family circumstances.

The usual clique are trying to wear me down again so I shall no longer reply on this posing to any of them.

Elegran Thu 08-Mar-18 21:22:19

That was to Luzdoh

minxie I am glad that GN posters have been some help to you. When a poster asks a question, there is always someone who has faced the same problem before, and you get a variety of solutions. Do return and tell us how it goes. It should be an "interesting" visit!

Elegran Thu 08-Mar-18 21:18:28

Perhaps you would like a summary of salient facts about each poster's life and style to appear along with the post? Do you get that when talking in real life to someone you have just met or hardly know?

The thing is, if we DO know from reading previous posts that they are likely (or unlikely) to use humour, irony, sarcasm, exaggeration, understatement, long-winded psycho-babble, lists of links, or whatever, then it is not possible to forget those facts.

minxie Thu 08-Mar-18 21:12:19

I haven’t been on here for a while to read replies, so thank you all. I am going on Sunday and I’m takin a dog treat with me. Hopefully I can give it to him personally as I’m working on at least saying hello to him.
The amount of ladies that have said how well behaved greyhounds are has made me feel better.
My whole life has been blighted by this phobia and stopped me doing many things and going to many places.
I have to face this fear because we are building a houseboat and will be living on a canal later in the year and you can imagine the amount of dogs that will be around.
I will indeed go to the doctors and see what help is available as it’s my time to get over this dibilitating condition.
I will let you all know how I get on with Baza the greyhound. Thank you all for your amazing help and advice, it’s muxh appreciated