I had endless arguments with my MiL (who was only 17 years older than me but could have been from another century, never mind generation!) She refused to have a debit card or pay by direct debit. She would hand me her bills that needed to be paid together with the cash and ask me to pay them "next time I was in the Post Office". The only time I went into the Post Office was when I had to pay one of her bills and it always meant a special trip. Eventually we had Power of Attorney and the first thing we did was get a debit card! And the second thing was to set up direct debits! She was always so keen on keeping control of her money but by keeping track of the account while I was using ATMs I had a far better idea of how much money she had.
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