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Is this acceptable in the 21st century

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Fennel Thu 24-May-18 13:48:51

I know a few couples like that. If you have only one TV it's difficult to reach a peaceful compromise. It's not so much "doesn't let" as he/she can't bear to watch.
Luckily for me there are few tv programmes I do want to watch. Husband likes some sport, and I quite enjoy that.
The answer is to have 2 tvs.

Mauriherb Thu 24-May-18 13:40:56

I would say she was late 60s. I've always been independent but if I have friends to stay I will always let them watch a favourite tv programme if they want to. Like Ginny, I started to wonder what her life was like, but she seemed quite confident. I suppose a lot of people, men and women, just accept things for a quiet life

Anniebach Thu 24-May-18 13:35:01

Have hen pecked husbands vanished ?

stella1949 Thu 24-May-18 13:30:02

She could have been any age - there have always been controlling men, and as long as women tolerate it, there always will be.

ginny Thu 24-May-18 13:26:39

Oh my ! Worrying. I wonder what else he doesn’t ‘let’ her do.☹️

Joelsnan Thu 24-May-18 13:26:12

Mauriherb
Sadly there is a heck of a lot of controlling going on behind closed doors. Usually male against female, but not always so and very much not confined to the elderly.

Jalima1108 Thu 24-May-18 13:25:47

Nor mine trisher

Although I have heard of one or two who were that submissive.

trisher Thu 24-May-18 13:23:02

Was it ever acceptable? None of the women in my family would have stood for this. Not even my grandmothers.

OldMeg Thu 24-May-18 13:19:58

I’m guessing she was elderly?

Mauriherb Thu 24-May-18 13:18:21

Sitting in the doctors waiting room, the lady next to me started chatting. I asked her if she watched the royal wedding on Saturday and she shook her head and told me that, although she would have loved to see it, her husband doesn't like the royals so wouldn't let her watch! The shock must have shown on my face as she went on to say that he won't let her watch "strictly " or any of the soaps. I find it hard to believe that in 2018 women are still bullied like this . Am I being unfair ?