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Embarrassing problem

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polyester57 Tue 29-May-18 18:04:27

Oh honestly, I have been getting up to go to the loo several times a night all my life. It usually gets worse when I am staying at someone´s house because I just wake up and need to go. Mention it beforehand to your friends if you like, but I usually don´t and go anyway. I don´t understand where the problem lies, we are all human. BTW if I´m somewhere on my own or just with my husband and I know no-one else is using the loo, I don´t flush everytime, so as not to wake everyone up.

ninathenana Tue 29-May-18 17:52:24

Crossed posts, sorry people.

ninathenana Tue 29-May-18 17:51:29

It's not unusual for older people, (and some not so old) to use the loo in the night. You may well find that your friend or her partner have similar issues.
Unless they are light sleepers and your not plodding around I doubt they would hear you. In any case it's nothing to be embarrased about. It's something we all have to do, even HRH as the saying goes smile
I would just casually say to your friend "sorry if I disturb you in the night but I will probably need the bathroom'.

pensionpat Tue 29-May-18 17:46:24

Susie. This problem is one which affects us all to a degree. Your friend and her partner are probably the same. Best to treat it lightly and joke about queues for the bathroom during the night.

M0nica Tue 29-May-18 17:46:20

I cannot see why this problem is embarrassing. Lots of us get up in the night to go to the loo. I usually go at least once, usually twice, but recently got up six times one night. heavens knows why and returned to normal.

Just tell your friends you usually get up in the night to go to the loo. They probably do the same, then tiptoe rather than tramp to the loo.

SunnySusie Tue 29-May-18 17:42:43

I have accepted an invite to stay with a friend in the summer and now I dont think I can go through with it because of my embarrassing problem. Normally if I go away I stay in a B&B. The trouble is that I have to get up to go to the toilet not just once in the night, but normally three times. My friend and her partner live in a two bed flat and I am just going to be so embarrassed tramping around waking them up. When I saw the doctor about five years ago she recommended Pilates, which I have been doing ever since, but it hasnt helped. Apparently I have a slight prolapse, but not enought to merit surgery. I find if I restrict my drinking its a bit better, but then I get a headache, or I cant sleep from dehydration. I really dont know what to do and I dont feel I can explain to my hosts. Can anyone help?