Embarrassing problem

Good post. I got ideas too. ?

Go for it Sunny Susie have a great time, l too have found helpful suggestions, especially putting feet up before bed. Please tell us how it went.

Thank you to everyone for your replies, absolutely brilliant and lots of practical ideas for me to try. I feel so much better just knowing I am not the only one with this problem. I am so glad I posted now, it took me a while to pluck up the courage. I wont cancel my visit to my friend and I am determined not to spoil the trip by worrying about going to the loo, so I will crack on with trying all your suggestions. Much appreciated.

If you need to get up and go for a wee just do it. So long as your not crashing about the place, stomping around, flinging doors open and flicking on all the lights, visiting the loo shouldn’t be an issue. I bet they get up to go too.

Hi again luzdoh....I am blushing lol!. Don't know if you'll read this as i had stopped reading this thread. I do not know anything professionally, only what my own body has taught me. At one stage I was getting lots of water/bladder infections, couldn't get off loo and even resorted to lying in bath for hours. I would panic at work and dash home sick and one night paid £30 to get a cab home from a do as i got that awful i need to go feeling and didn't want to spend all night in loo. During one bout of antibiotics doc suggested lots of water to flush through the concentrated urine and dilute things. It seemed obvious but had never drunk much water so began the 2 litres a day and found, to my surprise i was going less not more and have since not had an infection. Added bonus has been better skin, less fatigue and no more aching joints. But took me all these years to figure out i was living in a state of dehydration, headaches stopped too. I really try to listen to my body now and try things. Silly me addicted to sugary food and recently developed diabetes 2. Totally cut out sugar, dieted and did some pilates and today surgery nurse told me i am back to normal, so well chuffed. Good luck to you and all ladies that have a problem. PS am told pelvic floor exercises are good and a contraption you can buy to insert and use muscles to pull upwards as if toward tummy. Hope you get to read this luzdoh. Oh and cut out or down on caffeine, especially after 1pm ish!

Put your feet up for a while before bed. That encourages fluid that's been lurking in the legs to get moving and be peed out before you go to bed.

It was only after we had moved out of the house involved that my very dear MiL told me that after 5 years of sleeping in our visitors room, sandwiched between the bathroom and master suite ensuite, there was nothing she did not know about the bathroom use of every member of the family.

I'd be unhappy if my guests felt unable to use the wc freely.
I'd not mind being disturbed while they were with me. We have to be hospitable to visitors and especially to friends.
I'd also find it a bit distasteful to have someone weeing and keeping wee in a jug til morning in my spare rooms.

luzdoh You've made me chuckle.
I've now got this image of a jug full of wee and disintegrated toilet paper sloshing around as OP carries it . Oh dear . Yuk. ]

starbird
Your description:
I live in a terraced property with adjoining bathrooms reminds me,
We once lived in 400yr old terrace with bathrooms adjoining.
The first time I used the loo, as I sat enthrone, suddenly it was flushed! Actually, it was the loo on the other side of the paper thin wall! This "wall" had a gap underneath you could slide things through to your neighbour should you wish!! You could hear everything!

lollee I feel argumentative therefore, you are a genius!
I heard somewhere that milk makes you wee. I love milk and drink it at bedtime in the hope that it will aid sleep (I know about tryptophan and serotonin! I'm retired neuropsychologist, the "psych" bit not much use when you want to know bodily functions esp. the bladder). But if it makes you need a wee....
You sound educated about these bodily things, do you know if this is so? Thanks.

gmelon A thought came to me in bed re your perspicacious observation of weeing in jug = noise! Maybe put some loo paper in the jug to deaden the sound?
Just a thought...

Tried the raisins last night but still up three times. AArgh. However will try again - and practise self control during the day. It wasn't my post but am grateful for all the suggestions. Many thanks.

See your Dr again. There is ring that can be inserted to help a prolapse. There is also a tablet called vasopressin that reduces the amount of urine made in the night. If you explain your worries to the Dr it may be worth a try. Apologies if this has already been suggested. Good luck.

I have this problem when I stay with one of my sisters. She gets up herself so that's not an issue, but there is a very loud creaky floorboard outside of the bathroom which also runs into the bedroom I sleep in, and it is impossible for me to avoid stepping on it. Inevitably, every time I get up, as soon as I get back to bed, I hear my sister get up, woken by the sound of the floorboard!

But the most embarrassing thing was last time I was there, after I had had a ‘dump’ my sister remarked in a light conversational tone, that it was a pity that she could hear me when I go to the loo, but she supposed it didn’t matter as it was only the two of us! I was mortified. I try to put off using the bathroom until she is in the kitchen, the farthest room from the bathroom, or watching tv which is on loud as she is a bit deaf, but at the end of the day you have to go. I put paper in first to deaden the noise, but I have piles which can make it difficult and if I pass wind it is just a scientific fact that if air passes through a small gap it makes a noise. It is bad enough at home, as I live in a terraced property with adjoining bathrooms - I run a tap if I hear someone in the bathroom next door - but my sister lives in a detached bungalow. She married a divorced man much older than herself, (long since dead) didn’t like sex and had no children. We don’t normally talk about bodily functions - I have friends I feel more comfortable with, but she values ‘family’ and I doubt if either of us has more than a few years left so I don’t want to stop visiting while I still can ( usually only twice a year and she never comes to me as she cannot travel). But I can’t get over that remark!

What a landmine tipping is ! I have lived in France for ten years and when we first came to my region no-one tipped or expected to be tipped. Such a relief for me because I'd always hated doing it. It seemed as though you were doling out alms to those not as 'good' as yourself.
However, over the years it has crept in, some hairdressers expect it, some don't. Bar staff etc who we'd always left a small tip for anyway because they take your order and bring your coffee outside so we would leave a euro. Now I feel some sneer at that but they only do it once !
A gift at Christmas for a year of good service is the dignified way to thank people, I think.
When I visit my daughter in Texas patrons are expected to tip 20% !! My daughter says that the waitresses are so poorly paid and have no health insurance but surely the owners of these overpriced restaurants should be brought to book by the authorities.

just tell them, they'll be fine about it

This is what we used in the old days;
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Then empty in in the morning.
For those who need to go often, some blood pressure medications cause this. I was up nearly every hour, until a doctor changed my tablets.

I have the same problem and I always go at least 3-4 times but if I have drunk a lot even 5 times. My husband who sleeps next to me does not even hear me get up and flush. Your hosts are unlikely to hear you and if they do it really does not matter. As we get older we all need to go more, most likely your friend and her husband too.

I use Itouch pelvic floor exerciser. It may Reverse the part prolapse.

Luzdoh, I am certainly not a genius but thanks! ? I just think lots of things in life are mind over matter and as we get older tend to expect this sort of stuff so in a way it is self fulfilling. I am surprised that so many people regard getting up 2 or 3 times as normal. When you sleep your body's organs go to sleep too so should not be disturbing your sleep. Good luck luzdoh and SunnySusie.

lollee Wow lollee, not only do you have my childhood nickname, but I think you've hit my problem! I don't sleep well - pain wakes me. Every time I wake I think, better have a wee.... I will try your advice. I think this it it!
You are a genius!!!!

albertina How clever! The loo roll.

With your other stance I wholeheartedly agree, I'm sure a friend wouldn't mind at all. I do hope SunnySusie feels confident enough to tell her friend and to go and stay. This is a very common thing! She need not worry!

This may or may not be helpful. Talking to friends I have found that many get up every night but it really shouldn't be so until very old or a health problem. I found myself getting up 2 or3 times per night in my early 60s and often thought....I'm awake so I may as well go. I then needed to stay with sister. She has a downstairs bathroom and it involved going down, across lounge, through kitchen then bootroom and disturbing dog before finally reaching the loo. Wide awake by then! So I began training myself and when waking did not go unless a very full bursting feeling. Finally went back to sleep and found after a few days i did not need to get up at all, hence able to enjoy visit to sis with no worry. Back home, i rarely get up although sometimes up by 6.30 and need to go. I think a lot of the problem is mind led and we can train our bodies, worth a try maybe?

Three times is tbh not unusual at pretty much any age, I doubt she will even notice. But do let her know if its worrying you, I am certain she will reassure you that its fine!!

The Tena lights pants and pads are great for confidence if this bothers you in the day or you worry about sneezing etc when out and about. They are super absorbent and discreet.

Your GP will refer you without any question to the continence clinic for your area; this is where the specialist pelvic physios are based and they are really good.

Good luck xx