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Grandson’s nursery time

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Beau Sat 21-Jul-18 06:18:50

I agree with BlueBelle, Sielha - there's nothing you can do though, I had / have similar with DD and DGS. I can't understand it at all, I never wanted to be away from DD when she was a baby / toddler but nowadays some women don't feel the same - I find it heartbreaking.

BlueBelle Sat 21-Jul-18 05:27:58

I do personally see a problem although I agree it’s not your business But it’s a long old day for a year old 10 hours away from Mum how’s he ever going to bond with her I cannot see the point in having a baby to pay someone else to look after it sorry call me old fashioned ( which I m not) but where’s the fun times with Mum
Tassey you say why waste the money that sounds so cold The little chap needs a mum around she obviously hasn’t bonded with him or else she would be counting the days to the end of term to be with him I know a teacher (depending on the age group she teaches) have work to do in the holidays but that could be done when he sleeps or evenings, you work around things
Sounds as if he ll be at boarding school when he’s 7

In my opinion and from the bit of info you ve given she’s doesn’t sound very maternal at all I hope he can find his love, cuddles and guidance from his Dad and you Sielha

Tassymumof2 Sat 21-Jul-18 03:43:22

I don't see a problem with that. His place has to be paid for regardless if he goes, or he would loose it. Why waste money, the days are paid for, she might as well use them.
But on that note, she may have plans to keep him home a day or two each week, depending on what other things she has to do in those 6weeks. She might just not have any firm plans yet. A teachers job doesn't end when school does unfortunately, they have a lot of prep work to do at home.

Try not to read to much into it and jump straight to PND or selfish etc. She's still probably finding the balance between work, her baby and time for herself. Her son would have a familiar routine with going to nursery during the week and it could completely disrupt his moods/sleep to change it up too much just because schools out.

stella1949 Sat 21-Jul-18 02:04:38

Don't concern yourself with it. He is well looked after - what's the problem ?

notanan2 Sat 21-Jul-18 01:12:50

teachers have a LOT of prep to do in their own time in the holidays... she may be having a "break" compaired to term time, but I'll betchya her "break" involves some work!

There is merit in being fully "off duty" when the kid is at home, rather than half being with him while half trying to get prep done.

"selfish" mothers drink the food money BTW, there's nothing selfish about working your ass off in education to provide for your child, and these days without some respite she would end up burning out as teaching is not what it was! it chews people up and spits them out!

you clearly don't like her

Sielha Sat 21-Jul-18 00:17:50

Interested in others’ opinions on this: my daughter in law is a teacher and therefore just broken up for 6 weeks. My grandson of 15 months is in nursery full time (7.30am- 5.30pm) and will continue to be placed there throughout these holidays in order that she may have a break. Wouldn’t begrudge anyone a break but I find this a little odd, to say the least. Understand that the place has to be paid for regardless but would have expected a combination of nursery and at home with Mum throughout this period. She is a distant mum and my grandson has the strongest bond with my son (acknowledged by her). Post natal depression? Selfishness? Or completely acceptable? Welcome your constructive comments.