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Excluded from holiday planing

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rubytut Tue 24-Jul-18 22:40:21

Could it be that he knows you so well that he doesnt feel the need to consult you.

Bluegal Tue 24-Jul-18 21:39:26

Do you not like surprises or do you just like to be in control? I love it when my husband surprises me with holidays he has booked without me knowing where or what is! It’s an adventure superqueen. I would just ask “what do I need to pack”. Go with the flow and IF it’s not what you would have chosen, you may find you really enjoy it. Do let us know how you get on ?

glammanana Tue 24-Jul-18 21:37:53

My chap would suggest but leave the final decission to me as long as he was in walking distance of a good bar for wine & tapa's he is a happy chap.

Jalima1108 Tue 24-Jul-18 21:33:21

I'd have to pick myhself up off the floor too.

Mind you, DH might not pick the hotel I would like .....

merlotgran Tue 24-Jul-18 21:27:09

If my DH announced he'd booked a holiday for us I'd drop down dead in amazement. shock

Trophy person?

Jalima1108 Tue 24-Jul-18 21:15:46

Oh, how wonderful

DH has only ever booked one weekend away for us in 50+ years - how I long for him to research, plan and book a lovely holiday for us.
smile

Just enjoy it

Eglantine21 Tue 24-Jul-18 21:13:53

It depends where it is. Whisked away to the Caribbean- great. Bird watching group in the British Isles. A different kettle of fish.

If it’s any consolation the lover took me for a weekend watching his favourite sport for my birthday.

Nanabilly Tue 24-Jul-18 20:48:56

Maybe it's a special holiday and he wants to surprise you. Give him a break! Poor chap if he left it to you he would be in trouble and if he does it all he's in trouble.

Luckygirl Tue 24-Jul-18 20:31:29

At least he has done something - my OH has never ever ever had anything whatsoever to do with the job of booking holidays!

Has your OH told you where you are going? Doyou likeit? If so, I should just go with the flow and be thankfulhe has some initiative! But then say you would like to be involved in the choice next time.

tanith Tue 24-Jul-18 20:27:55

He wouldn’t of gotten as far as booking it without my input if he were my OH. Unless he actually did it without telling you?

Iam64 Tue 24-Jul-18 20:10:56

Oh dear - I'd be so cheesed off I may just decide to book a holiday I really want.
Does he usually do this kind of thing? Was he trying to give you a wonderful surprise? Men!

Superqueen Tue 24-Jul-18 20:09:44

It is our 34th wedding anniversary this year my husband seems to have left me out of any planning on a holiday he has just booked it himself for us . Am I being silly to feel just a tyrophy person to tag along?