My daughter and her husband have trouble conceiving. They have a daughter of 4 years, by IVF treatment, but as my daughter is now 43, don't want (and can't afford!) to try IVF again, and have decided to adopt. They have been through all the adoption procedures, and a little boy of 2 is likely to become theirs in October.
My problem is that I don't know how to handle this. I've been very supportive throughout all the adoption process, for my daughter's sake, but really, I don't know how I feel about this.
I'm worried about the affect this will have on my granddaughter (although, if her mum were pregnant, she would be facing just the same feelings of jealousy, etc.)
I'm worried that I won't be able to bond with this new child. (I really want to say 'strange' child!)
I'm not the sort of person who adores children. I don't drool over babies. I love my own. And that's it!
Of course, I will treat him just the same as my other grandchildren.
But I'm really worried that I won't be able to love him. (And poor little soul has been through so much rejection, I would hate to add to it!)
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