How to stop going on crying

So sorry for your loss, you cry as much and as long as you want and don’t worry about it. Losing pets is just awful.
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Fennel, what is it about WW2? I welled up just reading your post! It reminds me of Winston Churchill on the wireless. And Spitfires and bombers, don't even go there. I am just old enough to remember the sound of them going over.

In my case I think it is for things lost - I was living with grandparents then, and when father came back from the war it was mayhem, we had to move out suddenly and I never got over it.

(Blows nose)

I had tears in my eyes reading all these posts too C132 (sorry for shortening your name but couldn't get my head round it!).
My most recent bout of crying in public is when my husband and I visited the local premature baby unit to deliver some tiny baby hats I had knitted. Before we went in a nurse walked by pushing a tiny baby in a transparent cot. I took one look, started crying and could not stop. I felt such a fool but I had to wait in the corridor whilst my husband delivered the hats. In truth the baby looked perfectly healthy and I don't know why I started crying. But the thought of it has made me have tears in my eyes now.

I think it‘s quite natural to be so emotional on losing your little furry companion after so long. I also grieved when my dog died and even now, a couple of years later, still shed a couple of tears when thinking of him.

I hardly ever cry. Wish I could. I have friends who cry at every thing. We are all different and I would not worry about it

It is nice to know I am not alone in this boat. Apparently, crying more and longer is part of growing old for many of us.

A big thank you for all the sympathy regarding the cat.

I have literally cried my way all through reading all of these posts!!! I am an Olympic Medal-winning Crier ... I cried for 11 days after my Father died in 1967, literally without stopping - (and because I am such a horrendous crier, and I knew I would disgrace myself), I even made an excuse NOT to attend my husband's Mother's funeral (I felt that this would be so disrespectful, because she hated me and I did not like her - she had always wrongly blamed me for for her son' first marriage breaking up - we had not even met when he separated from his first wife!!) - I knew that even though I disliked her, I would still be in floods of tears, and I certainly would NOT be feeling sad. I cry at everything - even buying Greetings Cards in a shop is a nightmare, as I cry when reading the verse .... and don't get me going on watching TV - Even the most banal "Game Show" winner etc has me bawling - or a winner of a "Talent Show" - I am utterly hopeless and even though my beloved cat Leo died in 1982, I still cry some part of every day that I think of her, or look at photographs of her. I have sobbed quietly all through typing this response .......

I'm so sorry that your little cat died. Cry all you like. For some reason I'm not able to cry, but feel really sad.

Like others who’ve contributed, I find tears are never far away - reading this thread made me teary. Having shared this with my DH (no.2) of less than three years, he remarked, “You have every reason to cry, being married to me!”
Of course that turned my tears to laughter, which is one of the reasons I am with him.

Good grief- when I lose an animal I cry for days! That is quite natural. I think it is important to let it all out.
I used to cry over adverts on TV! Remember 'when they are up to Shredded Wheat they're growing up'? I used to howl every time it came on as the boys looked like my boys ( a bit).
I've often cried all the way home from a film.
Seriously - have a good howl & you'll feel much better in the long run.
Thank heavens for waterproof mascara!

I’m another one who cries at the drop of a hat. Alright when I am on my own but difficult around other people. I was in tears yesterday thinking about how alone my daughter must have felt in hospital facing major surgery two years ago. 12000 miles away I couldn’t get to her and anyway was too ill myself to make the journey. I keep telling myself that these things are in the past now and to live for today and hope for the future. But oh dear, here I go again ?

I am so sorry about the death of your beloved cat, very hard for you now. We both cried and were upset for several days after our beloved cat died.

I found that the Blue Cross website has a very good section on pet bereavement, and also a page where you can write to say how you feel.

www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement-and-pet-loss

Your cat wasnt ‘just a cat’ but a loving creature who you cared for, we can have more grief over the death of a pet than over some humans who die.

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I wish I could cry to release the sadness at my daughter's marriage breaking up. I cried a lot when I was young but now I bottle it all up. My 20 year old cat died last year. I would love to cried out all the emotion.

Yes I cry more now, its a great emotional release. Something on the telly that upsets me, tears, upset over something, tears. I am now just a big cry baby as well.

I cry more easily as I get older - sad things on TV and also happy things. I used to try to stop myself if other people were around but as I'm mostly on my own these days I just let it happen. It does usually make me feel better. Some films are guaranteed to make me cry however many times I see them. Crying over the loss of a pet is absolutely normal too. As others have said, it is natures way of dealing with our emotions. Not crying is likely to cause much worse problems in the long run. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Finding this thread very interesting - I 'overcry' - don't like it, it's upsetting and tiring. Why do men cry so much less?

Grandetante, sincere condolences and a hug.

I cry very easily, but if you need and want to stop, saying "rats" uses different muscles and helps you regain some composure.

Feel embarrassed though when my tears set's off someone else's. This happened when having to say
good bye to my little dog. This was the vet herself but would they be doing the job they did if they didn't love animals.?

Having lost 3 dogs over 50 years the sadness I felt was awful each time. You may well be extra sensitive anyway and the loss of your cat should not be underestimated. I can still cry when I suddenly see a photograph of each pet. The loss seems to be harder as one grows older. Allow yourself to grieve. I used to burst into tears at home, in the street, when anyone mentioned a pet. Somehow just felt the world had crashed. Wait a few months and get another cat. You will realise it is all the circle of life, including grief.

As others have said, crying is a normal human response to sad things and losing a cat you've had for so many years is truly sad. If you try to stop yourself crying, you may create new problems - trying so suppress a natural part of ourselves creates inner fights and other issues. So I think you can be kind to the sad part of yourself when you want to cry - don't dramatise whatever it is that makes the tears come, just be simple and go with the feelings and tears. If you aren't creating and repeating a 'dramatic' story about whatever it is (and it doesn't sound as if you are doing that) then the tears are natural and will die away in their own time. Be glad you can really feel your feelings - no one is always happy.

Anything to do with children or animals turns on my tap.
More sensitive now in my old age.

Getting upset easily can be a sign of anaemia sometimes it can make you feel low. HTH

Just note it with interest (the change in how you express/feel emotions and grief) - accept without judging. It's OK to cry and it's OK to feel grief.

When you might need to take action is if the tears and feelings of sadness continue unremittingly for a long period of time because it could be, in that case, that you are clinically depressed. It's not likely to be the case with you though because it's 'normal' to feel sadness and loss after the death of a loved pet. So go with it, look for small comforting things to self-soothe (preferably not food related, but good old tea could help!) - be your own best, comforting friend. Hug yourself, as a dear friend might do. X

I cry over all sorts of things and I am past the menopause.
Mostly my son who has been dead 11 years this October but other things start me off.
So don’t worry about it I sometimes feel better for it or feel worse so that’s life.
Just carry on doing what your doing and don’t worry.

I cried a lot after my cat died and then DDs dog. It seemed too much for the family to bear but I also cry a lot at the news just out of utter hopelessness.

Whatever you do don't try to stop- it will pass and then you will feel better.
Sometimes tears just come and I remember crying on the bus going to work reading 'Gone with the Wind' I was so embarrassed and went past my bus stop.