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How to stop going on crying

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paddyann Wed 15-Aug-18 10:05:51

I think we all get more emotional as we get older,I rarely cried when I was young but after having children any news with children being harmed or killed would make me cry my eyes out.

Nowadays I can cry at adverts ! We too lost out cat recently and I've cried bucketloads about him .Friends have even remarked they cant believe how upset I've been "about a cat".You cry,it will help and not just with this loss with all sorts of stuff you've been being brave about for donkeys years

Jane10 Wed 15-Aug-18 09:56:08

You poor thing. Of course you're crying over the loss of your poor puss. Grief can hit in waves when we're least expecting it.
I don't have any answers regarding difficulty stopping crying though.

KatyK Wed 15-Aug-18 09:49:51

It's natural to cry over a lost pet. I think it does you good to cry. I wish I could cry more. A friend said to me once 'I rarely cry, I have no more tears left'. That's me I think. Young folks these days seem to be always crying - I'm thinking reality shows etc.

Sparklefizz Wed 15-Aug-18 09:40:58

Crying is a natural release. You are grieving. I agree with oldmeg above. People who suppress tears - I had an acquaintance who was very proud of not crying after her husband of 62 years died - often suffer ill health and depression as a result of that grief or other emotions being stifled. My acquaintance had a long list of ailments after she lost her husband which she hadn't had before. I speak as someone who kept a tight rein on all sorts of emotions after a catastrophic breakup of my marriage in order to hold things together for the children. A few years later I collapsed with severe M.E. and have had health problems for the following 30 years. Emotions are energy to be expressed.

OldMeg Wed 15-Aug-18 09:16:15

Also, sad or emational tears are different from other tears and have been found to contain protein-based hormones including the neurotransmitter leucine enkephalin, a natural painkiller that is released when the body is under stress.

Sorry to go all scientific on you but tears do serve a physiological purpose as well as an emotional release.

Granny23 Wed 15-Aug-18 09:15:49

I wish I could cry like a normal person. Instead, I seldom weep, just occasionally have a full blown 'roarin' and greetin' attack, with great gulps, snot, shaking, which leaves me with a headache and feeling worse not better.

I don't know the answer. I think we just have to accept that we are all different.

MawBroon Wed 15-Aug-18 09:10:42

Let yourself grieve grandtante, I cried for weeks after we lost Gracie, I would go into the garden and talk to the “Grace” rose I planted over her ashes.
Why should this be wrong?
The term “cry-baby” does us such a disservice. Tears are a very necessary part of grieving and loss.
With every sympathy for your loss of your dear friend Remember the love you shared, be sad, but be grateful for the good years too flowers

Anniebach Wed 15-Aug-18 09:03:14

Exactly as said by OldMeg , I wish I could cry , it’s a natural relief of emotions , sorry about your cat x

OldMeg Wed 15-Aug-18 08:58:13

Why do you want to stop?

Is it because it’s not very ‘British’ to show emotions and that we ought to keep a stiff upper lip perhaps?

I know how this thread will possibly go with suggestions you're suffering from depression and suggestions that you visit your GP.

However, before you do that perhaps you ought to allow yourself time to grieve for your pet. I quite often have sad thoughts, and do cry. I’ve learned to allow myself to experience the emotion without feeling guilty.

The older we get the more sadness we will have experienced in our long lives. So let the sadness out xx

grandtanteJE65 Wed 15-Aug-18 08:48:05

Advice badly needed!

When I was younger if anything upset me, I could cry for a little while then dry my eyes, wash my face and feel better for having had a little weep.

Since the menopause, I find if once I start crying I really have difficulty stopping again. I know I should stop; crying no longer brings the relief it did when I was younger.

It has become far too easy to cry too, over things that at an earlier age I would just have shrugged off.

Has anyone found a way to combat being a cry-baby at the age of 66?

Right now, I feel I am just making a difficult day (the cat just died) more difficult for DH and myself by going around in floods of tears. I am really thankful that the 11 year old cat was only poorly for a week, and died peacefully at home this morning, just as I was preparing myself to phone the vet, knowing fine well that the cat would need to be put to sleep.

I am sure I am not the only person who finds it only too easy to burst into tears and well-nigh impossible to stop again, even although I know I should, so any solutions will be very welcome.