Non grandad name please

Grumps?

To be honest it doesn't sound as if your partner either has or wants an active role in the wee ones life so why would you give him a grandfather type title. I'd use either his first name or just his initials

Because we live in France, I am Grandmère and OH is Grandpère, the children love it!

What's wrong with the bleeding obvious - his first name? My grandchildren call my long term live in partner by his first name. He isn't their grandfather but he is a loving part of their lives. No problems.

call - not calk.
name - not nane!

I don't know what's wrong with his first name. Thats the obvious choice. My older gc call my partner by his first name. The younger ones who were born when we had got together calk him a version of grandad which includes his nane so won't say. But really, first name is best and simple. I wonder what your DP thinks.

When I had my first son my mother said she and my father would like to be Granny and Grandad.
My son had other ideas.
My mother became Gan gan and my father was Mate.
My other son and my nephews followed his example.

I married a widower who had two little granddaughters.
I suggested that they should call me by my Christian name as they had another paternal Gran who'm I didn't want to offend and if their mother wanted to tell them about their real grand mother there would be no confusion.
18 years later and it still works well.

Both my sons have encouraged their children to address my (second) husband as Grandad first name. (i.e. Grandad Alan.)

Interestingly, the children all refer to my first husband, their biological grandfather, as GRUMPY.

My husband is called Poppa. My own children called my father by his first name and he loved it.

Jane -or from Star Wars??

When I was a step-grandmother the children were all taught by their parents to use my first name as I was not the grandmother. Perhaps your son or daughter will have a view on what your partner should be called.

I think first names are fine. Children using first names for adults is quite usual nowadays. We called everyone Mr or Mrs, or auntie and uncle but that is no longer the case,

Three of my DGC call my husband Grandad, the other one calls him Roy. He doesn't have any biological grandchildren, so he loves all of this and doesn't care what they call him..

My DGS started by calling my DH 'Granpal' although he is his blood grandfather. Now DH & other DGF are both called Granpa (1st name).

My DGC call various close friends of their parents Auntie or Uncle, but off their own bat, call my sister Grauntie and their other Grandfather's brother 'Gruncle'. Children will often come up with a suitable name themselves.

I like Pa or Granpa. However, when my son had my first grandchild, a granddaughter, he said to my other half 'we don't want you to be a surrogate, we'd like you to be 'Granddad'. My son & daughter don't remember their father, as he did a disappearing act when they were one and two years old! My other half has been 'Granddad' to all 6 of our grandchildren!

My cousins call their grandfather Bebop (BEE-bop). (Their grandmother is Granny.) He is their biological relation but apparently when my oldest cousin was little she said he was acting like a Bebop and the name stuck.

I can't see anything wrong with him using his first name surely that's what he hears you call him.

My friends granddaughters called her partner by his name but as he also has a granddaughter who calls him Grandad they have now started calling him grandad Paul off their own backs, kids will work it out I wouldn't worry. ?

I don't know why but a friend of mine in the same position as you used Bompa! Sound good anyway

Thanks everyone
I love ‘opa’ and ‘obi’

But think I may add ‘ie’ to his Christian name.

I will ask DP what he thinks but suspect he won’t be that bothered! (He thinks baby’s are quite uninteresting until they are around 2-3 )

Two of my GC have an "extraneous" person who lives with their grandmother - they call him by his first name - often prefaced with "that horrid man".....unfortunately!

My DP is simply known, and referred to by my GC, by his Christian name. Not sure what else he would be referred to tbh.

His name is sufficient.

Whilst I wholely support non-blood grandads having the title if the fill the role, your partner does not sound like he has a grandad role in their life, which is fine! Its fine for him to just be his name

Ask the toddler what’s this man s name and see if he come up with his own version