I am envious of a woman I have never met!! Why?

ineedamum, take care, you are vulnerable x

MissAdventure and cherrytree59 , yes.

I have been estranged from my family for many, many years and will be for ever. So I am very independent, to the point that in emergencies I only have my sons to call, but I wouldn't.

I would love support occasionally just to make life easier.
I do wish I had the qualities of my manager in my personal life- loyal, dependable, down to earth and honest.
I suppose that is holding a candle?

Of course, another way of looking at it is that your are flexing your romance muscles in a safe way, as it were.
Dipping your toe into the waters, testing to see if you would like a nice partner of your own.

Her life is probably not so great. What is it they say - believe none of what you hear and half of what you see. A bit cynical I know.

I too think I am detecting an element of crush/hero worship.
You are a grown woman ineedamum and I would hope that this sort of adoration was years if not decades behind you. You know nothing of what makes your manager’s wife tick, of what their life is really like, whether he farts and snores. What is it about her that you envy?
I think you need to wake up from your daydreams or misty eyed idea of their relationship and focus on your own life.

Hello ineedamum
What is there to envy?
You have achieved so much without help!
On the other hand the woman you describe
has had a free ticket.

The grass on the other side can always seem greener.
But who knows what goes on behind closed doors.

I hope you don't mind me asking ineedamum but do you hold a candle for your manager and this is where your envy lies?

Your GN name suggests that you are missing an important person in your life

Well, I suppose the most common way these days is online dating.
I think there are some people here who met partners online.
Its just a bit of a mixed bag.

I think the fact that he is in a managerial position is attractive to you.
Probably you would like to be 'looked after' by someone who is man enough for the job.
I don't mean that in a derogatory way; I wouldn't mind someone looking out for me, being on my side and supporting me, too.

Missadventure, i think you're right. How can I do this?

Anniebach, he is the best manager I have ever worked for and I have a lot of respect for him. We are similar ages.

Miss adventure, it was an off the cuff comment said in confidence. I rarely see him

I think it is more about me

I think its an indication that perhaps you should try looking for love, or at the very least some male company.
You've done a lot, but nothing that's personally for you.

I know annsixty, I'm not proud to be envious.

I think it is a reflection on my life, I am working very, very hard but am lonely now my sons are finding their path in life.

Try not tj be. It will only destroy you. Be proud of yourself.

He isn't very loyal, is he?
What is he doing discussing his marriage with a work colleague?

Do you have feelings for him ?

No, he doesn't have affairs nor am I the type to have an affair. He is traditional, loyal and adores his kids. The divorce laws are in the woman's favour (he is a multi millionaire by the way)

Envy is destructive.
It is so easy to feel envy but we never know the story behind any door or any scenario.
You have acheived so much, be proud and happy.
Many will envy you and your achievements.
Don't waste your life being envious. It will just make you unhappy.

Why would you envy her? She’s married to a man who has affairs with his female employees.

Surely you can see this one coming..........

Ha ha x

Thank you . I don't like this side of me but you're probably right

to be fair, she probably has piles.