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Frequency of visits

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sodapop Wed 28-Nov-18 20:52:02

There is no 'normal' different strokes for different folks as they say. I think daily visits could be too much for most young families, you need to take a step back and let them live their lives. I think seeing your family once or twice a week is ideal.

Jalima1108 Wed 28-Nov-18 20:18:44

Does once or twice a week seem too much for you, then Mon1210?

I think once or twice a week sounds ideal.
I only see some of my family once a year (if lucky).

SpanielNanny Wed 28-Nov-18 20:15:21

Usually once week, although it can be a couple of weeks between visits if they are particularly busy. I’d love to see my dgs more, but appreciate that I am very lucky.
I don’t remember seeing my own grandparents every week, and I used to take my son to visit my parents a couple of times a month.
It is a bit of a ‘how long is a piece of string?’ question, but twice a week sounds more than reasonable, even for local grandparents.

NfkDumpling Wed 28-Nov-18 19:55:45

Once a week is far more than I see mine. They have their own lives, busy lives. We seem them when we can - mostly in the holidays when we’re needed for child care!

kittylester Wed 28-Nov-18 19:54:03

Maybe we are lucky that we see them often but it is on a bit of an ad hoc basis and depends on what is going on in their lives (and ours!)

janeainsworth Wed 28-Nov-18 19:36:35

J52 If your relationship is good, when you meet up it’s just like you’ve never been apart!
Spot on. I see 3 of my grandchildren once every 6 months on average. But when I do see them, it’s wonderful.

J52 Wed 28-Nov-18 19:32:45

Usually once a week for us, but if everyone’s busy it can be a couple of weeks.
If your relationship is good, when you meet up it’s just like you’ve never been apart!

Doodle Wed 28-Nov-18 19:31:07

When they were little about twice a month now they are bigger usually just school holidays.

Izabella Wed 28-Nov-18 19:12:13

Once in a blue moon for us. Twice a week is amazing, you are truly blessed.

EllanVannin Wed 28-Nov-18 19:10:13

Once the children flee the nest and settle with partners and children we don't expect to see them quite as regularly as we once did and shouldn't expect to do so when they have their own lives to live. Visits are " by appointment only " which is fair enough when it's convenient to them.
I don't see one D and family at all because they're in Oz, but that's the life they chose.

jusnoneed Wed 28-Nov-18 18:43:38

Perfectly normal, your daughter has her own life to live and your granddaughter is part of that.
I was very close to my Nan but never saw her every week. You can still be an important part of your granddaughters life without seeing her daily.

KatyK Wed 28-Nov-18 18:30:02

Sounds normal to me. I was a bit shocked when I started to see less and less of my daughter and granddaughter but unfortunately that's how it goes. I wish it was different but it isn't and at least we see them.

mcem Wed 28-Nov-18 18:29:42

As and when. Usually overnight on Friday.
"I cannot vision that being my way" .
Sorry but you'll see them when your DD decided what is her way.
You should be adjusting to seeing less of them, not working out how much time you can demand.
Once or twice a week is perfectly normal and far more than many grans.

MissAdventure Wed 28-Nov-18 18:26:35

Sounds perfectly normal to me..
Regardless of what you want, your daughter obviously has her own idea of what is reasonable.
I think everyone here has their own experiences of time spent with family members, and what is acceptable to everyone.

Mon1210 Wed 28-Nov-18 18:15:21

Hi, my 1st born daughter and granddaughter have just moved out. My granddaughter is 5 months old. I'm used to seeing her every single day. My daughter is suggesting we see each other once a week maybe twice. Is this normal? My mum doesn't really see my kids from one month to the next but I cannot vision that being my way. I don't know what is the right amount. I want a close bond with my granddaughter (I also want to see my daughter as I'm used to being with her all the time) without encroaching on my daughters life too much. How often do you guys see yr grandkids??