When I was a child, I had an uncle with a top job for an oil company. He was provided with palatial accommodation in America and elsewhere; owned a yacht in the Caribbean; and a holiday villa in Provence (true!). It used to drive his brother in law - my father - wild when he came to stay for a week (whenever he was in the UK) in our ordinary three bed northern suburban semi, as he never contributed anything. Also,as he would never go to the expense of a hire car, Dad would lend him our family car so he and his second wife could go off exploring on their own. He always returned it with an empty petrol tank, and I remember Dad's annoyance once, when he gave my mother - as a thank you for having him -and cooking for him all week - a small notepad with pencil!
Conversely, in later life, we have made a friend from a distance whose health and circumstances are far from enviable. We are glad to pay all expenses when he visits, as he is good company, never takes anything for granted, is undemanding, and very appreciative. He also always insists on buying each of us an inexpensive - but always very thoughtful - small present just before his departure, as he cannot return hospitality in his own home.And he is good at keeping in touch.
I know which man I have most admiration for....