When my sister became a single parent 13 years ago, straight from hospital she moved in with my elderly mum, as she couldn’t cope with the baby. It was my mum who got up to feed him in the night every night, and looked after him in the day while my sister did nothing. She took advantage of my mum for 3 months, then went home, but still went round everyday for her meals. Fast forward 13 years, my mum is in her 80s now and in bad health, but my sister still goes round everyday for meals, and to off load her son, because she still can’t cope with being a parent. He’s a big lad, and has severe autism, he’s got a bond with my mum that he should have with my sister, and when mum dies he’s not going to cope with the loss.
Can you and your husband imagine still doing all this in 13 years time?
You need to step back a bit, your daughter and GC have their own home, and should be living in it. I help out with childcare 2 days a week while my daughter works full time, she has 4 children, and once a week or so, my husband and I, go to theirs and her partner cooks for us.
Your daughter is taking advantage I’m sorry to say, and you may enjoy it now, but the more you do, the more she’ll put on you.