Dil and her Mother

I often wonder why people have to be so nasty Bibbity on here, I am all for different opinions but really! Pinky is obviously upset and feeling fragile, for heavens sake!!

Don’t be so ridiculous.
She is seeing her mother. Presumably because they want to see each other. As a result their child will naturally be comfortable around her and the first choice for babysitting.

How often does your son arrange visits with you?
How often do you call to see how they are?

If this is an example of your overall attitude then they may well steer clear.

Offer to babysit too, you can share this between you. Whatever you do don't cut contact, you are very, very lucky to have them.

Suggest taking it in turns.