NewgranGill, my very limited experience and knowledge in this area goes back quite a few years but, first of all, three is not a difficult age to find adopters for these days. Second, have you asked about things like keeping contact with your grandchild for the future? Please don't give any identifying details here for the sake of all your family. And third, could you make up a book of photos and information about yourself and your own parents and grandparents? You could ask for that to be stored with the child's adoption record until he is of age and then he should be able to see it. I've never seen any of these but I think there are organisations and charities which can advise you on this because nowadays we know so much more about children and their families trying to find each other after many years. There are a million reasons - even now - why it's not always possible or practical for children to have family contact during the adoption process but many many children come to foster care and adoptive parents with a stipulation for birth family contact and I think you need to try to make sure the social workers know you are there. They may be able to put your mind at rest in a general sense - or even just to note that you have expressed concerns. There's much more emphasis on placing children within their own families now but it isn't always possible and, at the very least, you should write a personal letter to your dgs and lodge it with whichever agency or council is handling the adoption. Hope that helps in a small way. I think the Salvation Army may be able to advise, but that's just what I have picked up from television programmes. My heart goes out to you in that situation.
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