Friends with adult children

when my dd was younger and had a BF If they had been together for a while i would put his name on any cards....it was like the kiss of death to her relationships!!!. Now my kids are grown up they can buy their own cards...they are no longer hi-jacking my friends

Never add childrens names, or 'and family'

Send cards with my name alone to personal friends whom DH doesn't know, orknow well.

How very strange I ve never done that since they were small if they know the person well enough and want to, they would send their own I m not their ambassador

Ah. My mother used to do that and we were almost no contact.

I dont think "normal" families do that, no. Not after 18 ish

I find it odd, I don’t add my children’s names to cards, if they want to send one it’s up to them.
I have a friend who not only adds her long left home children’s names, but their partners, and Their children, people I’m unlikely ever to meet, crazy!

Most cards are from just us, unless the family concerned knows the children well. My AC don't send cards or greetings to our old friends so I say (separately) that X X X and X also send their good wishes/love. As we do speak about these people when family are together, it's ok in my book. Our old friends tend to be their old (family) friends too, as they were around when they were growing up.

To others, cards are sent from me and OH only.

I always put my name "and family" if the person I'm sending it to knows the adult children well e.g. was around when they were growing up.

Adult is adult. My mother had a tendency to send cards or even once a wedding present in my name, even after I had left home. On the grounds that "I might forget".
It took a bit of a row to tell her it wasn't her business, and I hadn't had any contact with my cousin the wedding man for about 15 years.

I stopped putting my children's names on cards as soon as they'd left home. I haven't done it for years.
My sister still puts her adult daughters' name on cards, but then they are still living at home, with no prospect of either of them earning enough to get a place of their own.

When my adult daughter lived with me, I would only include her name on a card if it was to someone she knew well.

Do your friends' ACs live with them? If not, it seems strange to include their names.

when mine were still at home I always incuded their names on Christmas cards ....my son was almost 29 when he left home .Now depending who its to I sometimes add my GD who lives half the week with us ,but not on every card .