I think I need help!

Last August I was in a similar situation with my older son I cannot even begin to recount the awful, awful things he said to me. Fast forward 4 months to Xmas and there was some sort of peace. This semi-reconciliation came about, not from my son, but from his wife, who decided that peace had to be made, probably for the sake of the kiddies. Things are not 100% - seen them a couple of times since Xmas, but I doubt it will ever go back to what it was before his marriage . Like he said in that nasty email - he doesn't trust me - why I don't know. I'm hurting as I write this but what can't be cured must be endured. Good luck Bekind xx

I have had CBT too when things were dire for our family last year and it did stop me sobbing and feeling dreadful all the time. It’s not the complete answer but it does help.

Best of luck Bekind

Thanks to you all for replying. I think I will give therapy a try. I really need to learn how to cope with hurtful people and situations. I haven't been able to distance myself yet and still be happy because my children have been the most important purpose in life. I have never interfered in my adult children's lives but still thought I would be loved and wanted around as that is how I feel about my parents. I know I have to learn how to let them be who they are. Thanks for being so kind!

No advice but just to say how sorry I am to hear this.

Good advice from westerleywind. I have heard that CBT is good too! Try Yoga Nidra which can be downloaded from the internet. This is not exercise but mind training and certainly calms your mind leaving you more ready to cope with problems. A therapist could also help but only if you can find the right one - ask your doctor can you be referred.

I am in a similar situation. I have had CBT and that gave me some confidence back. I find life a lot more peaceful now that I have chosen to distance myself from all the dramas.

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