Bekind - ouch! So your problems are basically because your children don't get on and want you to choose between them? Phew.... not experienced that t.b.h. only sibling quabbles that I refuse to be drawn into and they sort themselves out.
Personally, I would NOT be drawn into it! Tell them ALL you love them the same and will not be blackmailed/forced into complying with acting against any of them. Then ....leave them to it!
Concentrate on YOUR life and your enjoyment. You don't OWE them any more than you have done. Don't feel guilty - just keep an open door and get out there living your life for you! We only have ONE .... Good luck and please please stop bowing to anyone else. Children/friends/partners anyone.... x
Good Morning Thursday 25th April 2024