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Renewal of vows

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BBbevan Wed 10-Jul-19 15:54:18

I agre with sara65. Why do you need to renew your vows if you haven't broken them ? Something special for just you two would be just as memorable

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Septimia Wed 10-Jul-19 15:49:47

My Sis-in-law and her husband renewed their vows but I can't see the point either. DH and I have been married 44 years and I feel no need to re-iterate the promises I made the first time round. I know my DH would hate the dressing up and the fuss.
Someone in our village did - the husband arranged it to follow, if I remember rightly, the wedding or marriage blessing service of their daughter and it came as a surprise to to the wife.
If you both like the idea, fine. If you don't agree, find some way of commemorating the event that you both like - the suggested cruise maybe. It'll be just as special and, as already said, the original vows still stand.

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wildswan16 Wed 10-Jul-19 15:46:27

Go on the cruise - the only people who matter when renewing vows would be the two of you - and if you really feel you want to say them again it would be much nicer just to whisper that to each other while watching the sun go down over the ocean!

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Calendargirl Wed 10-Jul-19 15:31:23

Forget the family party, go on the cruise, but say no more about vow renewal. He obviously doesn’t want to do that and why should he? The original vows were the ones that mattered, and have stood the test of time, so be happy for all you have.❤️

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dragonfly46 Wed 10-Jul-19 15:30:21

I can't see the point either.

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Sara65 Wed 10-Jul-19 15:27:23

I can’t see any point in it, it’s like your husband said, he meant his wedding vows, and he’s clearly not broken them

Go on a cruise and enjoy it

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Foxglove77 Wed 10-Jul-19 15:23:52

My husband and I have been married 39 years so it will be our 40th next year. We had a church wedding and we were 21 and 18 years old respectively. We've had a good marriage, two lovely children with good jobs and a lovely granddaughter. I suggested to my husband that we renew our vows and have a family party. To my surprise he is totally against it. He said he meant his vows the first time and did not feel the need to do it again! He is also against a party as he said the extended family don't have anything to do with us normally but would turn up for a free party! He has suggested we treat ourselves and go on a cruise instead. I love that idea but have just seen you can renew your vows on board! Or shall I not even mention that?

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