Tigertooth, lovely posts.
Of course no one tips/gives gifts to the bus driver, there is absolutely no relationship between a passenger and a bus driver, nor the shop assistant. However, many people tip the waiter, the hairdresser, the taxi driver, the person who brings up the cases in a hotel, the bin men at Christmas, and so on. Many others give boxes of chocolates or biscuits to the ward staff after they’ve been in hospital, and many people give gifts to their GP surgery at Christmas. Why the animosity towards teachers? Yes, they’re just doing their job. But what a job they do. They care for, nurture, educate, and encourage very young, developing minds. They help the children to learn to be kind, to respect others, to respect their own environment. What a tremendous responsibility it is. Why would anyone resent the giving of a small gift, a little bunch of flowers, some chocolates if the parent and child want to do that. How petty to resent this little gesture of thanks and appreciation for the care and support given over an entire year.
In my opinion, as an ex teacher, it is wholly inappropriate for a PTA to request money for gifts, especially large sums of money, but actually any money at all. The giving of a gift, any gift, is down to the giver, there should be no compunction. The gift is given in a spirit of generosity, and accepted with humility. The parent wants to give a small gift to express their appreciation, the child simply enjoys giving the gift. No parent or child need ever feel obliged to give a gift. A few words of appreciation is truly valued by the teacher.