Clairvoyant Medium

When life is extinct it is extinct, I can not understand how any sane or reasonably intelligent person could believe that another could communicate with an electrical impulse which has been switched off. To believe you can is to leave oneself open to ridicule.

Please don't go there it's dangerous x

I certainly wouldn’t visit one, and would never trust one.

I had a reading last week, we are friends on FB. She said I was moving next month which is true. My daughter said what rubbish as she will know by reading my page. I have not told anyone outside of my immediate family so there is no way of knowing that. She also said that the man with me was saying that it was about time I bought a new house, only taken me 4 years ? Shall get a new love in the next 2 years. I wait with baited breath ?

Never been to a clairvoyant or medium and although I do believe there are a very few who are genuine I think the majority are absolute charlatans.
Did happen to meet a shaman once who told me that I had been regularly beaten as a child and consequently had no automatic respect for authority. I met him in passing and he was spot on with his thoughts.

I keep an open mind which is why I view such things with a modicum of respect. Like most things in life however, there are those who sincerely believe and others who are fakes and con-artists. Since I can't tell the difference, I will never pay good money to have someone tell me about the future or the hereafter.

Can contributors please remember that there are some men who are members of gransnet.

I've read all the posts so far on this thread with great interest. I don't normally post on Forums too much but felt I just had to on this one.

There seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding mediums etc and I just thought I might be able to help. To keep things short and not to bore anybody I'll try to itemise the points I'd like to make.

Mediums work with spirit for the benefit of all. They receive communications, usually via a trusted 'guide', which they then pass on to the relevant person if that person wishes to receive the message. It takes a long time for a medium to become proficient and can be very tiring.

All mediums are psychic but not all psychics are mediums.

There are three psychic abilities: Clairvoyance (seeing); Clairaudience (hearing); Clairsentience (feeling).

Some psychics have all three abilities, some only have one.

Psychics will use whichever ability they have to give a reading; sometimes using Tarot Cards as well as a guide.

Mediums will give messages directly from spirit.

I have met a child who was 'gifted' and able to describe a previous life/family/place in great detail; even directions to a place that he'd never been to, at the age of 5.

I have met genuine and accurate people whose only wish was to deliver messages from loved ones to comfort those left behind.

At no time have I ever visited or associated with anyone claiming to be a 'clairvoyant' or anything else who had a house that smelled of 'cat wee' and I can say that is definitely not the 'norm'.

Regarding charging for readings etc., all I can say on that is that it is up to the individual if they charge or not. I would say it's fair to charge travel expenses and for time if the person is visiting another venue.

Above all it must be remembered that Mediums and Psychics are not 'fortune tellers', that sort of thing belongs in the fairgound with the 'dangly earrings' and 'silver crossed palms'.

My mother read the cards. She was brilliant. She told everyone what they wanted to hear. But we've always said she was a witch- the white sort,more I shall wear midnight, not really Nanny Ogg.

I have seen a medium, he was very good

There is good and bad. DH's colleague saw one who was accurate. She said he'd be moving to Scotland (he'd applied for a job but hadn't told her) and was in a new relationship which would last (again not mentioned.) She begged him to take his car to the garage for a check - it had a brake cable which was almost sheared right through - he was driving a death trap. That saved his life
Myself and DH went - it was astonishing. We parked a couple of streets away. She said there was something wrong with the pistons - when DH had started it (miles away) he thought there was a piston problem as it sounded funny.
She was so accurate and it was uncanny - it made the hairs on the back of your head stand up. There are terrible charlatans out there but this lady really knew her onions.

There are many well documented cases of mediums being employed, even by the police when people used to get lost on Dartmoor. There was another much reported case of a chap who got lost on the Himalayas. Only found when they went to the holy man who told them exactly where he was, way outside the area they had been searching. He had survived on water, Australian and they did lots of tests 're lack of vitamins and minerals etc.

most of it is costs you a lot. most people start talking about family even before you get in the show. you never know who is eaves dropping.......mind you saying that. i went with a friend .she paid £25 back in the 2000's.. and while this man was telling her fortune. he said to me. could i move away as i was confusing things.(me seeing dead people anyway/spirits).so i moved a couple of feet so i could hear what was being said, sounded like a load of afterwards he said to me alex and andrew are in an accident(my daughter and andrew coming back from church camp). my daughter was alice. scary. ??? well they were never in an accident but they saw one. next he said he could see david standing next to me...i said cousin davd not dead. and left it at that.doing family history later ,we had a david and edward died as babies ,why david and not edward...?i can usually pick up when a stately home is haunted...my friend and i saw a ghost/spirit on a trip to bodiam castle sussex. was at medieval fair .walking across the field was this man in full medieval gear. so we smiled and he smiled back. we turned back to see him and he was gone. there was no way he could have got across a big open field so fast...then i saw the gardener walk through the blocked up garden doorway.another lady saw this too. no way says me and went to look...solid bricked up doorway.then at statley home .not sure where this was i smelt peach perfume... asked whether it was air freshener.? no its lay ?? perfume... oh says me .she been dead 300 years.yeah right says me...truly says lady not many people can smell that scent..........mediums cannot converse with the dead....its FAKE....

I think most are charlatans, and a significant number do prey on the vulnerable, so please be cautious.

But I do believe that some people have a genuine gift, and that small children are often attuned to spiritual things in a way the rest of us no longer are.

Many years ago, I bought some lace from a Romany at the door. Without asking for extra payment, she read my palm and told me surprisingly accurate things about my life at the time and my future. The one big prediction was that I would be very, very wealthy very, very late in my life. If the news of that massive lottery win does finish me off, I’ll get DH to let you know.

I am with those who 'keep an open mind'. I agree that most are charlatans who read body language or make obvious guesses but frankly if I had lost a loved one and was grieving without end, it would be worth wasting a bit of money to me if I got some comfort from someone who claimed to be in touch with them.

A few years ago my daughter went with a friend to a spiritualist church on the other side of the city. The medium told her her granny ( my mum, who died in 1979) wanted to know why she had given up dancing...a talent which had skipped a generation and gone from my mum to my daughter. Also why had she taken to wearing big shiny workmen’s boots.? My DD had recently bought a pair of knee length, black patent lace up boots! ....and no, she was not wearing them that night.

I had the strangest experience with a friend who is a medium. We were having lunch at a local cafe when she suddenly started yawning so hard that her eyes were watering. Her comment was “that’s odd, someone is trying to get through to you (me) but can’t”, I asked who it was and she said “I think it’s your dad, he says, not to worry, everything will be all right”. My dad was killed in the war when I was not quite three.
My immediate reaction was not to believe her, so I said “Well, if it really is my dad, what name did he call me by?” (It’s a name that only he and my long since deceased older family knew), and blow me down, she came back with that name!
There is no way she, or anyone else, even my children, could have known it.
It rather changed my view as a non-believer, I can tell you!

Years ago they were genuine - found one who told me i was going to London and would end up living there, (long before i had any interest in travel) told me acting was very good for me (i studied for 3 years and worked in theatre for 5 - but did't tell her) and so here i am living in London since 1976. Have been to a couple in the last few years and they have come up with absolutely zero which is accurate.

My friend's son went to Australia and was waiting for a bus. A young man joined him and asked if he'd gone to Belfast College. It turned out they were in the same classes.

I had a reading done 6 weeks after my mother died in 1997.
As soon as I walked in the lady said " your mother is here"
There is no way on this earth she could of know that, at the booking I only gave my first name and I am not someone you can read by just looking at me. As the reading progressed my mum asked about a particular necklace, letting me know she knew I was doing work in my house that she had never seen and to use the dinner service she had given me a few years earlier. Then to top it all, the lady said " your mum said to tell you her hair is fine"
One of the last things my mum said was to me alone was to make sure her hair was right after she died.
There are clearly some things we will never understand.

I`ll go with Beckett

ok. I will stick my head above the parapet.

I am a Christian, and we are told no to this sort of thing

however. I do try to keep an open mind,, I do think/believe that there is another "world" alongside this physical world... I do believe that there is something after death here.

I have been to a clairvoyant when I was young,, some positive, but trivia...but mostly not... wouldn`t go to anyone who wanted paying, that is so contrary, imo, to what it is or should be about.

I do believe that our loved ones are near to us.. whilst I don`t recall having my mum, for example, directly speak to me, but I do feel her around/near... can`t explain it in human language..she has been dead 50 years now.

so I try to keep an open mind, but I am sad that there are so many charlatans about..
if our loved ones want to communicate with us,, I think they would do so, not rely on someone else.

There are some things that this world can't explain & this is one of them. There are a lot of charlatans around but there are some very genuine capable people, a friend of mine is a gifted clairvoyant. I've done it myself, I held someone's ring once, I said 'this has been in a fire' & it had, I don't know what made me say that though. another time I held someone's bracelet & said a snake had crawled on it only to discover she kept snakes. I can't explain it, nor can anyone else but it works.

I would not consult one but did go to a small dinner party once where a medium was present. The host claims not to have told him anything about the other guests. He asked to hold my watch and said I was concerned about the tall trees at the bottom of my garden (we had just found Dutch Elm disease in our Elm trees), and that we were also concerned about birds (we had a new house with large windows and the birds kept killing themselves flying into the windows). Neither of these had been mentioned during the evening. He also said I loved to travel and had already decided where I wanted to go next. He told me to go and I would have a wonderful time. On the way home my husband remarked he got that wrong. No - he was correct. That afternoon I had picked up a brochure at a Travel Agent and decided where I would like to go next but had not mentioned it to my husband.
He also told one person to check the tyres on his car. His car was OK but the tyres on the vehicle he used for work were not. A third person had a message saying Thank You for the roses. She had put roses on her husband's grave that afternoon.
Just a few facts which I remember but they were all true. How on earth he knew we have no idea. I still would not go to a large gathering for a medium/clairvoyant who will always find someone in the audience with a vague link.

Having visited a few over the years I have to say only one has ever told me anything that came true. She was very accurate on all 3 things she told me. I think most are just in it for the money.

And the question, 1mm6 is this - could it be that this lady's marriage turned out to be disastrous because her mind had been conditioned by the prediction of the person standing next to her in the queue?