Young Girls wearing make up

I’m not keen on makeup on young children but it seems it’s a sign of the times, I couldn’t put the word tart in the same sentence as a young child wearing a bit of make up though that’s disgusting.

It seems to be the norm these days. My DGD14 wears full makeup every day , at school and at home. I must admit that she does it expertly, taught by her mother . I stay right out of it - not my circus as they say.

My 12 year old DGD, loves using make-up. She does it so skilfully it is at times impossible to realise she is wearing it. She loves it, it doesn't look remotely precocious, as she is tall for her age. Her best friend uses none at all.

Not what I did at that age nor did DD, but times change and she does it because she is artistic and creative in so many ways and does not do it to attract male attention, she still has the fairly general near-teenager contempt for the boys in her school.

I think kids today wear far too much make up. My friends GD is only 13. The photograph I saw yesterday she looked about 30. She was standing next to her mother and they looked like sisters not mother and daughter. Both with tons of fake tan, fake eyelashes, those eyebrows that look like tattoos. She goes out with her friends dressed in outfits I wouldn’t let her out the house in. I’m not surprised they’ve had problems with her already with alcohol and lads !

Oh dear Lily - tell that to my solidly middle class daughter and her friends! I’m afraid times have changed.

A sensible parent will let her daughter (even son?) experiment with some make-up and show her how to do it with subtlety and appropriateness for the occasion. I know that some teachers keep a pack of make-up removing tissues in order to send over-made-up girls to take it all off. Some schools do have rules about make-up.
I've had a close look at my (almost 17) DGD's prom photos. She looks by no means 'made-up'. Has subtle eye shadow and some not very obvious lipstick and is quite lovely - in my eyes at least.

It is a class thing. As a working class girl (once, long ago, on a far off planet) I realised that middle class girls do not wear too much make up and have natural undyed hair and only one discreet ear piercing for proper grown up earrings. In those days one would not add ‘and no tattoos’ to the list because only sailors and criminals had them. Now, nice girls also eschew tattoos.

Agnurse not to my knowledge but again I’d be interested in seeing long term, large scale studies as it’s the kind of thing that I might get asked about at work

I agree with charleygirl15. it makes children look older after all they are not children for long.
12 year olds looking 16 is not on. The world is going insane!
what next plastic face with monkey lips etc etc.......then old age reduced to a pile of non biogradable plastic waste .

I do believe there is an increased risk of melanoma under the nail if you use gel nails, due to the UV light that's used to set the gel.

Wearing make up used to be a 'coming of age 'thing, along with first stockings, and even bras, though some well developed girls did need one sooner. The waiting was part of the growing up experience. Currently, my newly fifteen year old DGD is heavily into fake tan and make up. She really is much prettier without it, but it's a great deal to do with being the same as your friends. We all felt like that

I’d be very interested to see any rigorous long term, large scale studies which show that.

I hate to tell you all, but Dermatologist's studies have shown that nail varnish/polish can be damaging to the nails of any age.

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Good - my apologies, I completely misread the time of your post!

I agree with you about perspective - some of the posts on here have been somewhat dubious to say the least. Young girls are not tarts for wearing a bit of makeup to a special occasion, nor does it mean that every paedophile in the area will suddenly descend. I’m quite amazed at some of the hyperbole actually.

Like a few here I think a wedding could just about be put in the category of 'dressing up'. Why anyone who didn't need it (young people) would slap chemicals on their skin every day I am afraid I do not know.
Years ago it was something you did as skin tone started to fade or for a special occasion. I see lots of school girls regularly slapped-up. What pressure must they be under if even pre-pubescent girls feel the need to have that on their faces. No wonder we are also looking at an epidemic of teenagers getting what used to be called 'plastic surgery' and is now called 'augmentation' and ruining perfectly healthy bodies.
And, if you look on the internet we are led to believe that if you go without make-up in public you are a "hero" in which case I am Wonder Woman all day long. What complete and utter crap.

When they get older they will feel sad they didn't appreciate their natural beauty at that young age.

Now the weather is so hot they will feel uncomfortable i am sure if they have plastered their little faces.

What happens when they go to the beach or the pool???

SirChenjin, You missed my point, I was being facetious and flippant.

Of course its fine for a young boy to wear hair gel and for a young girl to put on a bit of make-up for a special occasion.
It's between the child and their parents.

All of these people sitting around passing judgement on other people like they are the etiquette or childrearing police is exhausting. They will find just about anything to complain about the current generation and their children "doing it wrong" so they can feel superior.

They have no perspective. And can't get past the fact that their (a random strangers) opinion on someone else child has no value, thats why they complain here, in an echo chamber of like minded, judgmental, out of touch folks.

It would be funny if it wasn't sad.

My Granddaughter has used make up for a few years,she is now fifteen, she doesnt need make up, and the stuff she puts on, there is a procedure of different "layers" called all sorts of things, I wish they didnt have to be like their peers, they are all lovely without make up.
I use mascara, occasionally rouge, very daring, mind you my face looks like tram lines,maybe thats why!

Can we have some perspective please - this is a 10 year old girl wearing a bit of make up to a wedding, not a remake of Lolita.

Children dressing up and putting on make up in the safety of their home for fun under adult supervision- I personally have no problem with this.

However, I regret to have to tell you that a close friend, now retired, who worked with prisoners over many years (including those imprisoned for sexual offences against children) would advise you that predators often use such activities as an excuse for their own criminal behaviour e.g. 'She was asking for it'. Dark eyeshadow and lipstick of any colour can apparently be triggers, as can red shoes; a skirt short enough to show knickers when the child moves around; or any undergarment which resembles one an adult would normally wear.
I am sad to have to say this, but these days we should all be particularly careful of how our children may appear to others when they are out of doors or in any public place.

Aepgirl My GD recently took her ballet exam and her ballet teacher put makeup on her. She also sprayed her legs (don't know what with) to make them look "smooth"

She's 7!

I'm not a fan of make up at any age though I confess to using foundation when I'm feeling/looking v tired.
Make up for little girls playing dressing up is fine, same for little boys.
Make up on a primary age child is a No for me, wedding or no wedding. Girls need every encouragement to accept they're gorgeous and don't need make up.
I share the dislike of the suggestion that a ten year old wearing make up could be thought of as a 'tart'. In any event paedophiles generally want their girls and boys looking younger than their age.

Gel was invented in the 80s and boys wore it in their hair. These boys are now in their mid forties and by and large they've survived being 'sexualised' in that way. Heck, they're your bank manager, your doctor, your DC/DGCs teachers. Amazing to think, isn't it?!

My son sometimes wears gel in his hair - he's 12 now but he's borrowed his big brother's for a few years now on special occasions, but fear not - DH and I keep a close eye on him and so far he seems be OK, phew! <touch wood>

Otoh, I do seem to remember my dad's school photos from the 40s and 50s with many of the boys sporting slicked back, brylcreemed hair. Interesting, isn't it.

I went to a lovely outdoor wedding recently where there was a little boy about age 8. He had his hair slicked back with gel and was wearing a tuxedo. At the time I thought he was adorable.

Although, thinking back on it based on these reactions, i've had a change of heart. How dare those parents allow him to slick back his hair like the other adult men at the wedding.

He's a little boy and shouldn't be styling himself in this manner. I would never allow my son to wear his hair in such an adult manner in public. Sure, playing around the house its ok. But out in public and at an occasion like a wedding is a sad commentary on kids today and how they are being brought up.

When I was a kid boys never had gel in their hair. That was reserved for teenagers and grown men.

Poor little guy, being sexualized like that.