Gc lacking in life skills.

I am often shocked at how grandchildren are bought up. However at the end of the day it’s none of our business. I’ve been told this and suppose it’s correct. ☹️ In my house though it’s my rules, and unless they totally go against parents wishes they are abided by. Kids are not at all independent, reply on Mum for everything. How on earth can they learn and make good or bad choices in their lives? I used to think I could change things but I can’t, so mostly now just keep quiet, unless I’m asked an opinion!

"He's just lazy. His Mum had me round for tea yesterday. We sat at the table and she made him eat everything. He even cut it up himself!I'm more relaxed with him although other gran is a bit of a dragon."

That is what I was thinking, he can for sure cut his own food but he was testing what he could get away with.

If somebody can do it for me, why do it myself?

No wonder some children are so lacking in basic abilities if they are so ridiculously mollycoddled. It's not doing them any favours.

A little bit of practice will do the world of good but you don't need me to to tell you that.

One day they'll have to stand on their own two feet.

Don't get your point Riverwalk, were not living in a stately home here!

Greggs is shut now
I'll have to wait until Monday.

I remember years ago saying to my friend that sausages were made out of all the horrible bits of an animal, like nostrils and bums.
"I don't care" she said "i'll eat anything's arse if it tastes nice!"

I wish I liked sausage rolls! I had my first vegan SR from Greggs the other day. I ate it in a oner - no cutting necessary- and it was quite nice but cost £1. Organic houmus would have been cheaper.

I don't care for quinoa either Maggiemaybe. or Black magic!

A sausage roll in front of the tv. What has the world come to, eh?
The world is going to hell in a handcart! (Ironic.icon)

Faced with a sausage roll or organic houmous my hand would go to the sausage roll but my brain would say 'no, houmous, houmous!'

Chocolates for seconds.

Did anyone look down on the sausage roll?

I was pointing out the irony of the OP lamenting her GS's lack of life skills but giving him a sausage roll to eat with his hands in front of the TV.

I’m surprised that people look down so on the humble sausage roll. Surely not many of us exist exclusively on quinoa, avocado and organic houmus? Treats are allowed, aren’t they?

Though I’m probably just trying to justify the fact that I’ve just scoffed the entire top layer of the Black Magic I won on a tombola earlier.

In that case, I sympathise. If he is a bit shy and reluctant to break any rules. It sounds as if you should spend more time with him, getting to know and understand him better and perhaps sharing stories of his dad when he was that age?
I can remember being taught how to use an iron, knit, sweep the floor, peel potatoes, collect eggs from the hens etc by my gran, when I was between the ages of 7 and 10 (when she died)

As an only child he is rather protected .Mum woñt leave him in house to run to shop 500 yds away. Also not allowed to walk to other gran across a small road ,a 3 minute walk.
I try to expand his horizons but for example he was reluctant to start our game of golf as we hadn't paid.When the attendant opened up I told gs to run back with the money but he was too shy.

I am a little surprised by this story but kircubbin2000 seems to be apportioning blame to the child's mother because it is she who usually cuts up his food. I can be almost 100% sure this will be the DiL rather than the DD. (I'm getting used to the undercurrents of GN)

Is the child not trusted with a knife?
I met a physics teacher who complained that her class of 11 yr olds were too afraid to light a match, to light the Bunsen Burners. So she spent the whole class teaching them all how to light a match , safely. They were delighted to be given some responsibility.

This was a large one from the bakery. To tell the truth it didn't taste very nice. I won't shop there again. For all you miseryguts who say it wasn't a meal he is never hungry at that time and eats a main dinner at night.I can't see what harm relaxing in front of
tv will do him. He had a busy morning playing golf and later did a practice exam for 11 plus.

Riggie I posted that too then thought that I must have bad manners.
It would spoil the enjoyment to cut it up.
Not that I've eaten a sausage roll larger than cocktail size for years.

Just re-read this thread and can honestly say that I have never fed my GC with sausage rolls, cut up or otherwise. I do not actually consider that to be a meal.

The one little disappointing thing is that my daughters have not passed on good table manners to their children. My own mother was very strict about this, and so was I - so I can't understand it. I think it's laziness on their part. But if you start good table manners from the off, it just becomes second nature.

I'm afraid I have to speak up sometimes. Can't help myself. 'Don't make a noise when you eat.' 'Put your knife and fork correctly on the plate when you've finished.' Etc.

Luckily, mums and dads don't seem to take offence at this - rather smile at my 'oddity'. SIL said one day, 'What does it matter?'

I explained that it will matter, when they're older and go out to dinner with their peers - not knowing what cutlery to use - not knowing that you don't begin to eat until everyone at the table is served, not knowing how to use a table napkin, etc. They'll look pretty foolish then!

We must equip our children with good table manners, so that in later life they will be able to eat with anyone and not be shamed by their lack of manners.

However, as I look after the grandchildren often, I've taught them what to do. My 5-year old granddaughter can lay a table perfectly. And my 3-year old grandson is fast catching up.

It makes me smile when the family go out somewhere for dinner. I can catch the children's eyes, frown, and they immediately correct whatever is wrong.

I've won! (Just hope they remember, when I'm long gone!)

Like it Saggi. We put out grandchildren to work on “unpaid internships”.

I know of children, NOT my Grandchildren by the way, who do not know how to use a knife and fork, everything is eaten with their fingers! These same kids rarely sit to the dinner table, seemingly it is acceptable to have a plate on their knee in front of the TV! Certainly not in my house!

I think the sausage roll was a meal, lunch in fact, merlot.
Not a biccie or an apple snack.

Well said Riverwalk. You can’t expect good table manners if you are sitting watching TV whilst eating.

I've never accommodated that kind of behaviour.
Its a home, not a cafe, so if its not wanted they go without.
(I can't stand cooking anyway)

My neighbour told me that she cooked steak and chips for her 10 year old granddaughter. The girl said, " I'm not eating that." The grandmother said nothing, but scraped the food into the bin and didn't offer to provide a substitute. Apparently the bad behaviour was not repeated.

...that’s ‘ nans house’..... oh they also have a grandad sitting in living room...but at 11 my grandson already knows it’s useless to appeal to him...he’s got his measure...he don’t like to swear!