Drinking in presence of GC

A glass of wine or two with a family dinner? Absolutely.

I would have a glass of wine when I had newborns as well.

I would never be sole carer if I drank that much, but I also don’t drink that much.

You are not unreasonable wanting them to not hold your child after drinking that much. However, you cannot police how much people drink, so your job is to take care of your child. If you are uncomfortable letting them hold your child then don’t. I would be very uncomfortable with that as well

I never drank when I was in charge of my grandchildren on the basis I was looking after them and if they’d hurt themselves and needed a doctor or hospital I could drive them immediately.

Drinking those amounts of alcohol during the day time, seems like serious drinking to me, I think you’re entitled to feel uncomfortable. Whether or not you say anything is another matter, unless it starts to pose a real problem, I’d be inclined to let it go for now.

I'd be under the table if I'd had that amount of alcohol to drink! I certainly wouldn't be up to holding a baby safely.

I think you're being perfectly reasonable with your baby - it's not worth the risk.

FWIW, my dh & I and our son had a glass of cider with dinner this evening, with our small GC at the table too, but I don't think they can tell the difference between cider, apple juice or fizzy pop at that age. One glass of anything is the limit though.

I don’t drink when I have the grandchildren to stay, but we all drink alcohol when there is a gathering, or when we go for a meal- but only one or two. The oldest grandchild, nearly three, knows that adults drink wine and beer, but she doesn’t see us drink to excess. It’s a tricky one- I certainly wouldn’t have liked my children to be around heavy drinkers when they were small. I think you are wise to limit visits. We had the added problem when my children were small that all my husband’s family were smokers, and because they lived a long way from us they always had to stay. Some of them were offended when we asked them not to smoke in the house.