Sinking feeling but why?

I do it too - agonise for ages over every detail.

crazyH I'm sure you did thank her enough, you're that sort of person but there's always a nice bunch of flowers to back up the message.

Oh I m another one always go over and over things thinking I talked too much, said the wrong things, was too loud
I recently had a lovely meet up with friends but one left early without giving a reason, I went over and over and over what I’d said, because at one point we had had opposing views, nothing nasty, just a different point of view about something (not political I might add) and I managed to convince myself that I d gone over the top and said something unkind, (I knew I hadn’t) talked over her, etc etc however I met her by accident the other day and she was smiling, chatty and normal, so I m sure I made all that drama up in my head afterwards
If it’s any consolation glen you are not alone

Thank you all SO much for your words of comfort and for being so open and candid.
Good practical ideas too for distraction from these thoughts. I’m very grateful x

Glenfin.....I am exactly the same. Had a family gathering yesterday, in my son's house. D.i.l. worked hard and I feel I didn't thank her enough. I feel I said all the wrong things. So, you're not alone ?

Always with me it's talking too much. You may have noticed from my posts but friends tell me not to be so silly - especially those who like my accent.

We are full of self-doubts aren't we? And I'm really quite a confident person - but still they creep in.

Onward and upward Glenfinnan - and never forget that what you say may just help someone one day. You never know.

Me too. Did I talk to much, was I boring, did I ask them about themselves or did I just talk about me?

No you are NOT!
I drive myself crazy after being with, mainly, friends - not so bad with family - thinking "Why did I say that or why did I not say that". The way I deal with it is to say to myself "Stop doing that!" and make myself think of something else.
The reason I don't feel the same after being with family is because I know if I spoke out of line one of my 'dear' family would tell me!
I hope this helps.

I'm the same, and in my case, I think it's linked to my depression & anxiety. I worry about what I've said/not said, how I behaved, etc.

Glenfinnan I wonder why this is if it is a new thing. Are you worried about anything, a little depressed maybe.
I used to be just like that when I was younger. I used to go over every event in my head afterwards and wonder if I said the right thing, or talked too much or too little.
I only occasionally feel like that though now when I meet new people. With most of my friends I feel I can relax as they accept me for what I am.
Maybe try not to dwell on what has passed and when you get in do something proactive like watching a tv programme or reading.