My granddaughter is an only child. Her best friend is Romanian.
At the beginning of this year, my husband and I took the friend with us when we took our granddaughter to Cadbury World for a day out, as it was lovely for our granddaughter to have company. The friend's parents brought her to our house and gave me a bunch of flowers, which was lovely.
The girl said she had £20 with her but she didn't need it, and didn't spend it. We paid for everything, including a couple of bits from the gift shop and meals etc
Fast forward to the summer holidays, and again, I have taken them both out for days. We went to crazy golf one day, and to soft play another. On the last one, the girl again said she had £20 but there was nothing to spend it on.
Yesterday, my daughter took them to a pop up sunflower farm, then my granddaughter went to the friend's house for a sleepover. Again, the friend had money with her but didn't spend it.
The girl's mum texts me after each outing, thanking me for taking her daughter out, and each time I have told her that she's doing us the favour as it's lovely for our granddaughter to have company.
Anyway, the Romanian family had an appointment this morning, so had to return my granddaughter home early this morning, although they want her to go back and play at their house this afternoon.
So - to the etiquette dilemma. When they dropped my granddaughter home today, they have handed my daughter a gift bag containing a thank you card (saying thank you for everything), a box of chocolates, and £50 cash.
My daughter is horrified and says she wants to give the money back this afternoon when the girls are back at the friend's house.
Have we unwittingly offended this family by not letting the child spend her money. Is it Romanian etiquette to pay your way when taken out? Would it be insulting to return the money, saying it's really not necessary, and it's our pleasure to take the girl out with us? Should my daughter be giving them money for having my granddaughter? (She has only been to their house, not been out with them)
I have a Romanian colleague at work but I don't have her phone number to ask her, and we don't really want to wait until Monday!
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