Partner refusing to see doctor

This sounds a nightmare for you and it seems you have had a rough ride with this partner a cheeky question I suppose but is he worth it do you love him enough as it is only going to get worse if he does have dementia
When my mum had dementia but was still making her own a
Appointments I did at times write to the doctor to help him know what was hoped for or needed seemed to work for us
Good luck this sounds a sad tale for you

Jillybird Toughie because professionals can only help people that want to be helped. IF your husband flatly refuses help I doubt anyone will help. He has to realise he needs to do this for himself.

Difficult to know for sure if he has any other condition as alcoholism in itself presents with many signs/symptoms of other conditions.

Tough as it is; you are probably 'enabling' him to continue as he is.

All I can advise you to do is look after yourself. He will just drag you down further and further. Be kind to yourself and tell him you have had enough and then make the move! Can't pretend it will be easy but actually it is your only option in the hope to save him. Stay strong - make plans and don't for one minute feel this is your fault or you are responsible for him. He needs to work this out for himself!

He will take one of two routes if you leave. It will either shake him up so he seeks help of his own accord OR he will kill himself with drink. No matter how hard this seems - think of yourself first and foremost. YOU only have one life too.

Feel it so much for you.

If he is an alcoholic it's possible that he has Korsakoff Syndrome, ie the dementia related to alcoholism.

It is hard for doctors to diagnose the early stages of dementia with a cooperative patient, but with someone like your partner I can't see any way it could be done.

My husband had these tests done last month, and he had to have blood tests, a mental quiz-type test, and a CT scan of his brain. Obviously all of these things required cooperation on his part. I doubt that your partner would agree to any of these tests.

Your partner sounds like a nightmare to be honest. Dementia will only add to your already huge problems. I wish you luck.

Do you have children and family you could meet up with to discuss and find support?

MiniMoon, thanks for the link.

When I trained as a mental health nurse, I encountered several alcoholic men suffering from Korsakoff's psychosis or dementia. It is very under diagnosed so I was just wondering.
Here's a piece about it.
It is very difficult to persuade addictive personality types that they have a problem. I can't think of any way you could persuade your husband to visit his doctor unless he sees the need.

This is very difficult, and I think others will be along with wider advice for you, but I wanted to flag up one simple thing you can do.
Write a letter to your partner's doctor, explaining your concerns. say that you will be trying to persuade him to get an appointment, but in the meantime would like your concerns recorded - you can add 'please do not mention this letter if he does attend' if you want to. The doctor cannot actively do anything, but if your partner attends for another reason, they may ask certain questions or suggest certain tests because of what you have written.
I would also suggest (and forgive me if you have already tried this) that you find a support group for the families of alcoholics. Dementia is common in alcoholics. You could also go to the GP on your own account, to ask about support for yourself, and consider telling partner why.

Not helpful I’m sorry but I would run for the hills.

How about the doctor calling both of you in for a health check?
Blood pressure, heart, checking out any aches and pains... memory issues...