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Daughter reporting me. What should you do?

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Nanastomant Fri 04-Oct-19 10:36:23

Hi all I'm at my wits end, long story short I have 4 ad's and 4gc, have helped mind all my gc and supported my account in every way possible.
Yesterday d3 who has been living at home with gd 2 who until recently I have minded 7 days a week was having trouble with not wanting g in the push hair on school run.
It came out that social services may want to get invol ed as gd has bruises, normal 2 to bruises.
I later ask daughter and it turns out shes the 1 doing the reporting for giving another's ds what for for running on the road.
My eldest works once and could be suspended if her bosses find out as other shes twisted what happened.
As a result have told d and gd need to leave asap. I feel theres is no way va k from this. I'm so with her has been so difficult I really need her to go.
She was,such a nice girl growing up.
Sorry for the rant I'm astonished and totally gutted

vampirequeen Fri 04-Oct-19 11:48:01

Vent away. It helps to get the stress out of your system. You are in a terrible Catch 22 situation. I have no advice but am happy for you to vent here or pm me whenever you feel you need to.

annsixty Fri 04-Oct-19 11:54:38

Sorry to hear of this but can’t help. I hope someone can.
vampirequeen it is so good to see you posting.
You have been missed.
I hope all is well with you.
So sorry to detract from your post OP

BlueBelle Fri 04-Oct-19 11:57:33

Really not easy to follow what’s happening from your story it’s a muddle to me You have four daughters and four granddaughters, one daughter and child has been living with you and you have looked after the child full time
Then after that I get unsure what’s what, that same granddaughter was playing up because she didn’t want to get in her pushchair and your daughter told you that your granddaughter had bruises which she had reported to social services because of someone running on the road ???
Then something about your eldest child being suspended from work why I don’t know? Or what that’s got to do with the story ?
And you want daughter and granddaughter out your house ?
Am I close ? I m presuming your so her up it’s all come out in a muddle so maybe try and clarify it

dragonfly46 Fri 04-Oct-19 12:05:34

I am with you Bluebelle not sure what is going on but it sounds horrendous Nanastomant. I hope you can get it sorted out. By all means rant on here if it helps.

ginny Fri 04-Oct-19 12:08:11

I’m confused too. Is it your daughter reporting you for causing bruises ?

Nanastomant Fri 04-Oct-19 12:09:20

Bluebells it was a gs who I told off.
Yes I do need daughter to move out although she may have already gone.
Oldest dd works for social services and as she was here when the alleged incident happened and the report could get her suspended.
Yes same gc in pushchair playing up.
Gc who ran on the road was different child but because her daughter hot bruises from falling etc. She has reported me.
It is all muddled anyway. Now got to wait till the end of the month to see doctor with the stress.

annsixty Fri 04-Oct-19 12:39:07

Not at all a clear post.
You should not have to wait over 3 weeks to see the Dr when you are in such a state.

Nanastomant Fri 04-Oct-19 12:44:32

It's a specific doctor I've seen before with stress.

jenpax Fri 04-Oct-19 12:46:30

Sorry to hear of your worries and I hope it all works out. Unfortunately I too really do not understand the sequence of events and who did what to whom and found the post confusing. However it’s very clear that you are distressed and stressed about things and I think you should try to push for an earlier GP appointment.

Tedber Fri 04-Oct-19 16:33:57

I can’t follow which daughter reported and which daughter the child belonged to or what actually happened.

All I can say is my gc are regularly tripping and sporting bruises especially the boys! They also get bruises playing football. Can’t imagine what I would feel like if one D reported me? Sounds horrendous whatever has happened.

BradfordLass72 Sat 05-Oct-19 05:56:44

It doesn't matter who reported whom for goodness sake - the crux of the matter is that this poor woman has a daughter and gc living with her which is driving her bats.

Nanastomant this is a sorry state of affairs and you need to have your home to yourself whilst you wait for that crucial appointment, so I hope your daughter really has moved out so you can get some peace.
If not, negotiate with her to find somewhere else. You just don't need the aggro.

I wish you all the very best. flowers

Nanastomant Sat 05-Oct-19 07:00:55

Bradfordlass72 thank you she is staying at a friends at the moment and the peace is wonderful.

Sara65 Sat 05-Oct-19 07:06:01

I admit, I’m not following it either, but you sound very stressed and upset, and need to look after yourself, take a step back from it all.

Val05 Sat 05-Oct-19 07:37:08

hello there
so you have been reported for bruising on your grandchild I don't think you have anything to fear.
children of certain ages fall over and bruising occurs.
what I would do is log exactly what happened on that day in a diary and use this when the local authority investigate.
After all the years that you have cared for this child I cannot see how any one could accuse you of hurting one of your grandchildren.
I also cannot understand the post too well but can feel your stress, may I suggest you contact a support group for some direction with this, which again I know is difficult because it is such a personal matter.
Remember you are innocence until proven guilty this may not help you feel any more better about the situation.
as for your daughter reporting you I would ask the local authority to investigate her and the reasons for doing so. I am sure things will pan out in the end but recognise that this is a very difficult stressful time for you and wish you peace at the end of the day.

agnurse Sat 05-Oct-19 15:27:48

If it is any consolation, health care providers are educated as to what are signs of abuse and what are signs of normal activity. For example, bruising on the legs or forehead would be considered normal. Bruising to the abdomen, ears, neck, or arms, especially "five finger" bruising, would be more suspicious.

Nanastomant Sun 06-Oct-19 09:58:36

Thank you everyone for replying. As ad and gc are not here and have no contact for a couple of days I feel some what better.
I'm sure it will all pan out in the end. I've raised my girls and helped with numerous nephews and nieces before the grand kids . Never been any trouble so just makes it more hurtful, coming to conclusion the more you do for some people the less it's good enough for them.