I’m simply fuming! Am I being unkind?

I did get an apology this morning. I left him to stew yesterday to find what he had lost.
Amazingly, this morning on my desk was an envelope with copies of all relevant papers and a note to say could you keep these in a safe place and I have another full set of copies. To which I agreed.
Will let this one go and encourage a visit to the doctor. Thank you all it’s good to know he’s not the only grumpy old man around.

My 62 year old DH has turned into Mr Grinchy-Eyeore at times. He is often miserable, sulky, grumpy, ranty, ungrateful mean spirited and selfish. It pains me to say this. He was a very nice man once, full of love and optimism. His self pity, given that he is fortunate and blessed in every way, is horrible to see.

He’s a grumpy old man. When my husband speaks grumpily to me I ask him whether he thinks his friends speak to their wives like that and say that I am fairly sure that they do not. I am fortunate in that it never lasts too long with him and I usually receive a fairly swift apology. Does your husband recognise that he has behaved badly after the event (and apologise)?

Your husband is in a foul mood because he knows he has lost the paperwork he needs, which you gave him. He returned early to search for it, but is venting his bad temper on you, because he won't accept that it is his fault.
If he could calm down you could both search for it together, and very likely find it; then it would make sense for you to keep it.

ElaineI Yes we would. I know of at least one couple who have decided to have a baby with the aid of a sperm bank - not a willie in sight. I'n told this is quite common now.

Plus, as Artificial Intelligence proceeds apace, and Artificial Insemination joins it, we are looking quite seriously at a world where men as procreators will become redundant.

Your AI robot will give you all the cuddles and conversation you need, with none of the demands.....or bad temper.

I hope the OP gets her curmudgeon to the doctor.

TBH I think that is men! World would be much nicer without them though we wouldn't procreate!

He’s always had a bad temper it has worsened I’d say over the last year. He completely ruined his 50 year old daughters birthday in Sept. ruins dinners, if the restaurant doesn’t suit him the list goes on! We are beginning to call him (not to his face) Mr my way or no way.......

If he is not normally bad tempered, it might definitely be that he's ill in some way. Sorry to say something so pessimistic but it is a possibility.

mmm, I think the move is significant. Are you both entirely happy about it?

Could he enlist some help with the paperwork?

Stress from the house being up for sale and having to live in a show home ?

Interestingly the biggest change we’ve had is a granddaughter 5 months old. We will care for her 4 days a week until Feb. He is besotted with her so not sure that is a problem.
He retired 5 years ago and had seemed happy. We’re both fiercely independent so enjoy our time and also time apart. Feels like life has been blown apart atm.
Thank you your comments throw a different light on things.

I agree with agnurse there could be several reasons for the change in your husband's behaviour Abuelana . People under estimate what a big life change retirement is for couples. There is a lot of adjustment to be made and you need to talk to each other about your expectations of this new stage of your life.

If this is a recent change, I'd suggest that he get a full checkup. It could potentially be the onset of dementia, but it could also be something organic. (For example, men do experience a natural drop in testosterone over time. It's called andropause. It doesn't affect all men the same way.) Even something such as diabetes or low thyroid could cause the signs and symptoms that you're seeing. It's also possible that he could be depressed due to his retirement - some people believe that they've sort of outlived their usefulness once they retire, and it does take some time and adjustment.

His provider will be able to do a full evaluation and determine if there is a cause for concern and what can be done.