I've only had time to read a few of other's experiences over the "festive" season, but some seem to echo my experience.
Call me Scrooge if you like, but I've never particularly enjoyed the materialism fest, over-hyped advert and alcohol fuelled bore that is Christmas. too often leading to family rifts and exposure to the worst of human nature.
And now I'm a granny it's worse.
•Did three full days of cooking, plus brought other things pre-prepped and frozen. DIL never does, or did, lift a finger to help. (Difficult to hint to her: she needs yelling at straight in her ear but I'm too disliking off confrontation to do it).
•Fell foul of rigid and unyielding parenting rules that led to baby screaming all day and expectations that my husband and I could distract him. If course we couldn't: he just wanted comfort and cuddles from his distant mother.
•Realisation that my son is now saddled to a manipulative control freak, who wants to force everyone to bend to her will, to make her own life easier.
So this was Christmas.
Somehow - anyhow - never again!!! Can anyone offer an alternative off-the-wall plan that gets me off the hook next year?
Yours sincerely (not feeling it) "Harmony" Granny. 💖
so sad. Its not a good world for everyone. You did a very good thing to help and feel upset. Its not your fault as sometimes others are so ungrateful. I sent my Grandaughter presents and my daughter said they were no use. Pygamas and hat scarf and gloves as she had £150 last xmas for an organ and i gave her less this year. I asked that the things be returned, saw them today but daughter forgot to bring presents. It will be months till i see them again.
My partner has 3 sons, all in steady relationships, one with 2 daughters. I have one daughter who is single. My daughter always invites us for Christmas or for the weekend as she lives 109 miles away. The sons are all within 10 minutes drive. You can guess the rest. We did not see the sons over Christmas at all. They entertained their mum though. We never receive invites for a drink or meal or even a mince pie and sherry. Daughter came for Christmas, brought gifts, food, alcohol etc.
Consequently , we have booked to go away next Christmas as that’s what we want to do. Daughter will join us when she finishes work as there is room in the rental.
I think we overcompensate at Christmas and now we all need to look after ourselves after being unselfish for so many years.
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