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Fennel Mon 20-Jan-20 19:24:27

I'm beginning to think that I've got days and nights mixed up.
Especially during these short winter days.
Thank God I've still got a husband and he goes out every morning before 7am and we get up around 5-6 in preparation.
So by now I'm thinking of having supper of toast and jam and going to bed. We have our main meal at lunchtime.
I do read in bed for an hour or so.
Are we abnormal?

polnan Tue 21-Jan-20 10:06:34

Are you abnormal? LOL what is normal? if you are not the same as everyone else,, o.k. who is?

harrigran Tue 21-Jan-20 09:37:19

Retire to bed at 00.30 -1.00, read a chapter of my book and wake between 7.30 and 8.30. If I have a disturbed night I may lie a little longer.

Hetty58 Tue 21-Jan-20 09:23:34

'Are we abnormal?' There is no normal. I usually sleep from about midnight to six. If I have an afternoon nap, however, I can be awake at four thirty - but who cares, I'm retired!

SirChenjin Tue 21-Jan-20 08:21:56

Bed at 10.30/11, read for half and hour, then up at 6.30. I’ll normally wake up a couple of times through the night and I’m usually awake before the alarm. I always feel like I need more sleep.

TwiceAsNice Tue 21-Jan-20 06:32:12

I go to bed varying times any time between 9-30 and 11-30. Earlier on the two days I still work as the alarm goes off then at 5-30. Always read or look at Gransnet before I sleep. According to what I need to do that day I’m up between 5-30 and 9am . Most days I go back to bed with a cup of tea before I shower to start the day

BBbevan Tue 21-Jan-20 05:38:12

Well I am not a night owl, just the opposite. I have been known to go to bed at 9o'clock. Read for an hour or so. Nearly always awake by six. This is a throw back to when I was teaching. I liked to get to schooll by 7:30 to get everything ready. Then I didn't have to stay long after school, and could be home for the children This worked very well and I suppose is a habit now.

hollysteers Tue 21-Jan-20 01:17:10

I really need to sort myself out sleep wise and you are not abnormal! If I don’t have an appointment in the morning I can stay up practically all night, I love the nighttime, tv, reading etc. BUT what a mess it makes of the following day and I depress myself so much I go back to bed!
My husband died three years ago and I don’t work at home any longer, although I have loads to sort out. I do think it’s partly depression, or as I like to call it, low spirits, as I enter a trough and can’t seem to get out...

Sussexborn Tue 21-Jan-20 00:59:16

Much too late! OH usually disappears around 11pm and somehow time speeds up and next thing I know it is the early hours of the morning. Every time I convince myself I will be more sensible tomorrow but it never seems to happen! I actually quite enjoy the quietness but struggle when I have to get up early for an appointment. I think I must be nocturnal!

Buffybee Mon 20-Jan-20 23:04:57

I don't have a regular time for bed so it can be any time between 11.00 and 12.30
Up between 7 and 8 depending on how late I went to bed.
I've never been able to go to bed early and hate getting up early.

Oopsminty Mon 20-Jan-20 22:42:37

I'm like you, gmarie

Always been a night owl

Sadly, I am awake at about 7am though!

I'd love to sleep in until 9

I've tried to go earlier but it just doesn't work

Too old to change now!

gmarie Mon 20-Jan-20 22:35:47

Same here, 52bright. I go to bed at 1 or 2 a.m. and get up around 9 or so. I always feel like I'm missing something if I go to bed early and love sleeping in so it's been a win-win since retirement. It does make for short daylight hours, however, so I've been trying to get to bed by midnight. So far, have not managed to do it consistently.

You all are just getting up as I'm winding down. I live alone and discovered Gransnet one night when I was unable to sleep and feeling a need to connect with other human beings. I often get caught up in a few threads, reading dozens, if not hundreds of comments! grin

rosenoir Mon 20-Jan-20 21:55:06

Bed at 12.30 read until 2.30 up at 9.30ish.

Tedber Mon 20-Jan-20 21:26:22

Namsnanny My bed is 11 years old and is a memo form king size bed purchased from Bensons for Beds BUT just a word of caution. My husband and I absolutely LOVE IT but my daughter and husband didn't like it at all - no idea why not but am guessing it is very much subjective. If you like a firm bed then I am thinking a memo form bed which moulds to your shape is not for you.

I think you really need to do as the advert says....try it out. I used to love firm mattresses but now I don't so it suits me. When I go anywhere with other mattresses is I find it hard to adapt.

Ninarosa Mon 20-Jan-20 21:12:19

When it reaches 5 pm I'm champing at the bit to get my husbands tea done and dusted. Sit with him for 20 minutes just to be sociable, then fill my hottie,make a cup of tea and take both to bed. If I'm not in bed by 6 o'clock I'm miserable. I then read, look at messenger, plan weekends away, look at working week ahead and sometimes even go back downstairs for a slice of toast. I'm definitely bed fond.

love0c Mon 20-Jan-20 20:52:32

I go 10, 11. 12? when I am tired. If I go before I am tired I just lay there and brood! and then never get off.

Harris27 Mon 20-Jan-20 20:50:34

My poor husband is still up at 3am getting ready for work starts at 4am roll on retirement few years to go! We’ll probably still wake early then!

bikergran Mon 20-Jan-20 20:50:08

I go to bed around 6pm sometimes, maybe slightly later. 6-30 ish.

I think boredom is the cause, plus I get tired easily lately.

I'm bit late tonight as I have been looking after grandsons till dd finished work.

Im up around 7 ish or earlier when Im in work 3 days as start at 8.00am

Im starting to love my bed confused

BlueSapphire Mon 20-Jan-20 20:27:07

I go up between 11 and midnight. Then write my journal in bed and read. Usually awake about 5am and try to doze till about 6 -7 am.
The cats like a routine and come and sit in front of me about 11pmish, and wait for their evening brushing, after which they have a treat - they are great creatures of habit.
They usually come and leap on me in bed about 6.30am, but I can usually keep them at bay a bit longer.

Namsnanny Mon 20-Jan-20 20:18:11

Tedber ...When you say your bed is soooo comfortable, can I ask why, what is it, and where can I get one?
I'm being serious actually, I'm desperate to get into a better sleeping habit and I'd like to get a new mattress/bed.
Any suggestions?

Anniebach Mon 20-Jan-20 20:18:01

I go to bed at 10.45pm, after the paper review. Listen to my audio book until 12.00 news. Wake about 7.30, have mug of tea, look on iPad, talk to my dogs, don’t get up until 9.20,
no reason to.

Urmstongran Mon 20-Jan-20 20:16:23

Aren’t we lucky to be able to choose? Unlike someone I know whose last carers of the day often put her to bed by 5:30pm to fit their schedule. So sad.

sodapop Mon 20-Jan-20 20:14:41

Yes that's right Tedber no routines needed now we are retired. Whatever suits your lifestyle Fennel

Phoenix why does Mr P get up at 4.30am that is incredibly early.

52bright Mon 20-Jan-20 20:10:46

I am a real night owl and go to bed between 1.00 and 2.00 often spending time when I should be sleeping reading or on Gransnet. Our alarm goes at 8.00 and I am usually awake but not wanting to get up before the alarm. The trouble is that I am incredibly lazy in the mornings and will sit having coffee and toast in my dressing gown until after 10.00 if I don't have a definite appointment.

I am trying to change this pattern because it makes for short days, especially in the winter when it gets dark so early. I am trying to go up to bed a little earlier with my kindle. It has a light which means I can read without putting a bedside light on and disturbing my husband who is always in bed by 11..00pm at the latest. It seems that in this, as in all other things, we are different. Oh well ...they say opposites attract.grin

Tedber Mon 20-Jan-20 19:54:11

What is normal fennel? Part of the beauty of not being tied to a work routine is choice! When am not working, I often love to go to bed really early (sometimes 7/8 pm) to read or watch t.v. My bed is SOOO comfortable. I sometimes fall asleep early and wake up around 4, get up and have a cuppa, read or watch some more and then sleep again. I love the freedom of not having to be tied to the clock. Do what you want!

tanith Mon 20-Jan-20 19:50:46

I go up at 10 watch the news or read a while. I’m awake by 6 earlier in Summer, I always get up in the Summer but I read or watch the news channel till 7/8 in Winter.