Lookernomore You really do seem to have grasped the 'getting older' thing. And the way that you write, you sound as if you've got so much spark and humour and honesty that there's certainly no need to worry about or fear those blurry images that keep turning up in your mirror.
Just carry on being you, I think you're doing fine. Make your hairdresser your friend (I'd kill for thick hair now), less is more with the cosmetics, use some good night cream, and don't use a razor on your face or we'll all come to get you!!!!! Shaving only makes much bigger problems, use a special bleaching cream like Jolen on your moustache instead, and consider laser treatment or take the advice of a beauty salon, or become a fiend with a good pair of tweezers if there's not too much growth on your face.... you are in no way doomed to become your brothers any day soon!! Every woman in the world needs to keep some tweezers handy after 40, I reckon.
Join in with things, try to do one small thing just for you every day, take a class, go dancing or go walking and make sure you meet up with your women friends for a damn good laugh as much as possible when we're free again. People are always drawn to your character, not your looks. If only the surgically changed, plumped, ironed, Botoxed and filled girls of today could grasp that looks go first, because once we accept that we no longer need to be shallow slaves to our appearance 24/7, watching others watching us. We've all met people like that - sad! Enjoy life, relax, stay safe and please keep posting.