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Husband not seeing red traffic lights

(64 Posts)
SalsaQueen Fri 15-May-20 12:58:39

If he really is as bad as you say, he's a danger to anyone else on the roads - pedestrians especially - so I think either you should rive, if you're able to, or take the car keys away!

Toadinthehole Fri 15-May-20 12:25:35

Please get this sorted before he kills someone. It’s completely normal for eyes to deteriorate with age. He shouldn’t be driving, so please stop.

kittylester Fri 15-May-20 12:07:15

Or talk to his gp about your worries.

Babyshark Fri 15-May-20 11:35:52

He doesn’t get to go quiet and refuse to discuss. What a selfish dangerous man! If you don’t do anything you are equally responsible if he hits someone at a crossing or hits another car at a junction.

Please take the keys and insists he had an eye test.

Davidhs Fri 15-May-20 11:33:33

When dad had to fill his driving licence form at 70 he asked us to help him -
“hang on dad how bad is your eyesight”
He had macula degeneration and didn’t drive again.

You husbands problem isnt just red lights you don’t have to have colour vision to drive, it is either inattention or serious eyesight problems, get him to the optician and don’t let him drive until his problem is fixed.

Septimia Fri 15-May-20 11:25:28

Maybe he's red/blue colour blind but up to now has managed by seeing the light rather than the colour. The current problem might be quite easily solved and getting it looked into might actually be a relief for him if he's worried. I hope you can get him to see someone about it.

quizqueen Fri 15-May-20 11:23:14

This is serious, are you going to wait until he kills someone! You've already let it go on for 6 months, that's so irresponsible. Tell him he can't drive until his eyes have been tested otherwise you will report his dangerous driving to the police.

H1954 Fri 15-May-20 11:20:58

The first thing you should do is hide the car keys! Then, and this won't be easy due to lockdown, he needs an eye test. For his, yours and the safety of all road users, do not let him continue driving until this is resolved!

vintanner Fri 15-May-20 11:17:03

Agree with NotSpaghetti.

Eye test needed. He may only need tinted glasses.

Until it is sorted I would suggest you drive.

MrsEggy Fri 15-May-20 11:14:48

My DH has macular degeneration, it's effects were very subtle at first, but it sounds as if your DH needs an eye test, telling the optician he thinks something is wrong.

NotSpaghetti Fri 15-May-20 11:10:11

I would ask him to have an eye test in case there is something serious going on. It is better to be safe.

He knows there is something wrong but is probably afraid. If you are supportive and discuss this outside the car he will probably be pleased to air his fears and will get some medical/ophthalmic advice.

Good luck.

yggdrasil Fri 15-May-20 11:05:24

Can you drive? If so insist you do till he gets his eyes tested. If not, walk

Glorybee Fri 15-May-20 11:02:56

My husband at 67 confessed that his confidence in driving wasn’t the same as it used to be, this alarmed me so when we’re both out, I drive. He does do short local trips by himself and has been fine, but I do long and joint trips. I’m far from perfect but if anything did happen I’d only have myself to blame.

Lollypolly Fri 15-May-20 10:52:44

My husband is 68 reasonably good health, had 3 stents 4 years ago and no problems since then. Over the past 6 months I have noticed that he is failing to see traffic signals when they are red. I have to shout at him to stop. He goes all quiet and won't discuss. It really beginning to worry me. What should I do?