I’m 79, love driving anywhere but in the last couple of years I don’t really like driving at night. I live in France and even the motorways are unlit.
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Over the past 24 hours on GN, I’ve seen any number of women claiming they can’t drive, or don’t drive on motorways, or they are afraid of driving long distances, or that their DH does all the driving. I was quite astonished. I thought these attitudes were ancient history. Have I got the wrong impression, or is it true that older women are mostly timid drivers or don’t drive at all?
I’m 79, love driving anywhere but in the last couple of years I don’t really like driving at night. I live in France and even the motorways are unlit.
I'm 67 and love driving. It was the best thing my mum did, teaching me and my 2 sisters to drive, She drove in the war and passed on her skills to us. I will be driving in France next year, should have been this year but the virus put an end to those plans. I will drive anywhere, motorways, etc. I think everybody should be able to drive as you never know when you might need those skills.
I am over 70 and still enjoy driving and as my family live in different parts of the country I have to use the motorways frequently, the M1, M 69, M25, M23, or M6 going the other way. I am also happy to drive in Europe and have driven in USA including driving out of Miami on an 8 lane highway with vehicles overtaking on both sides of me. I wasn’t in the wrong lane by the way, it’s just what they do. I sometimes feel safer on motorways than other roads.
I have driven since I was 32 when I had to make easier getting my youngest son to school which was off a regular bus route.
My husband was shocked I passed first time but he indulged me and bought me a little mini,how I loved that little car.
During holidays I have shared the driving over the years and one year drove back from Costa Brava in a VW Camper Van when my husband took ill on the journey.
This summer I am looking for a new car as I sold the car my husband had until he died last December it was far too expensive on insurance for me so as soon as the lockdown is over I shall be out and about looking in car showrooms.
When I see women being driven to the supermarket and husband standing round inside like a spare part, oblivious that he's getting in people's way, I do wonder if I'm in a 50s film.
One friend, who drove in her youth and when the children were at home, has not driven in 30 years. Then husband couldn't drive for medical reasons...
For a variety of reasons I never learnt to drive. In the past few years had the opportunity but decided that in my late 50s it might be a bit late plus financially taxis cheaper than overall cost of running a car. There are disadvantages such as time a simple journey by public transport can take plus that sense of freedom. At this moment in time I regret it. I live in a beautiful part of country but cant see any of it. I'm high risk so public transport not a risk I would take just for a change of scenery. Food deliverys can be problematical. I'm lucky in that I have a garden. Over the past week I have thought how lovely it would be able to drive somewhere pretty and quiet. It looks like holidays may be UK based,but as a non driver rely on coaches.... Fingers crossed things do improve eventually.
I love driving and will drive anywhere which is lucky as my DC live on the other side of the country. In fact I am thinking of having a new car for my birthday next month.
I am also happy driving abroad as we lived in Holland for 18 years.
That is horrible Urmston we never know when these things will hit us as it comes out of the blue.
Both my DC have cars although my DS who first lived in London and is now in Brighton finds his car sits on the road most of the time as they walk everywhere and he used to get the train to work.
I love driving .
I was not a motorway driver for years,but now i love it and drive all over the country,Dh can`t drive so we don`t have issues on that front.
And i was pleasantly suprised to hear my two sons and their wives think i am a good and safe driver.
Whoooowhooo
I love driving-we always lived far from our families and one DD lives at the other end of the country so motorway driving is the norm.
We share driving, but I admit that driving to meet friends in Birmingham in the dark and in pouring rain, I happily sat back and let DH drive.
I’m 74 next month and still drive. I’ve thought of giving up mainly because of the expense. My car’s only worth about £500 but has cost me thousands in various repairs. I take it to Halfords which is convenient. It’s due for an MOT soon and I know they’ll find something that’s going to need doing yet again. I’d like to have the courage to get rid of it but it’s a means if independence to me
I adore driving and have done so for over forty years. I hate being driven so when it’s my OH and I, I generally drive. We have our own cars so if it just me or both of us, we use my car. If he is doing his own thing he takes his car. I have friends whose husband ‘let’ them drive! What is that all about? Straying from the subject a bit - I used to help run a local Playgroup and we could only have committee meetings during the day. One or two husbands went to the pub every night and refused to babysit. I put my foot down and suggested we meet alternate evening and daytime. It is difficult to run a meeting with toddlers and babies running wild. Who knows what happens now over thirty years later!
I can and do drive, at every opportunity. I love driving.
And I'm not timid. I used to drive too fast, but have learned to calm down a bit as I've grown older.
How can I be sure? I haven’t done a test run to Barnard Castle.
I can’t imagine not driving. My car has been my mental lifeline in the past. I have a friend who is always asking people for lifts. On one occasion when I was taking her somewhere I asked her if she ever regretted not being able to drive and she said ‘I can drive but my husband won’t allow me to’. I was astonished and it made me think carefully before I transported her in my car again. She is younger and fitter than me also.
I am still driving in my mid 70s and love it. I know several ladies who can drive but tend to sit back and let their husbands take over which is fine until the husband becomes ill and can’t drive.
learnt to drive ages ago but never very confident. Used to do motorway driving but now live near M25 which is a racetrack and terrifying. DH thinks he’s the world’s best driver and most others (including me!) are rubbish. Also now have Volvo with lots of “driver aids” which beep if, for example, it thinks a car is too close etc. Sudden beeps scare me - always think I’ve done something wrong. Therefore I let DH do driving - although it’s loss of independence.
I am over 80 and still drive, sometimes long distances but I don't like driving at night so much now
I'm 69 & have driven since I was 18.
I would much rather drive than be driven - especially by DH who takes too many risks.
I have driven all over UK but draw the line at driving abroad (have you seen Greek drivers!!)
DH worked in US on & off for years so is used to driving on the wrong side.
Works for us. If we are going out for the night he drives there - I drive back. I can resist alcohol if I have to.
I dislike driving these days simply because of the sheer volume of traffic, but living in a little village, my life would be very difficult without my wheels ! The furthest I drive is an hour and a half away to visit my sons in the next County. When I go long distance to stay with friends, I always take the train these days, just so much easier and stress free.
I'm with you BlueBelle, never driven & never wanted to. Me, DH & the kids always had bikes, I only stopped cycling everywhere when I was knocked off for the second time three years ago. Thought I might not be lucky a third time so got rid of my beloved old bike. DH, elder daughter & her husband have never driven either.
My father didn't approve of 'women drivers' though he was actually a terrible driver himself. He failed his driving test for being too slow and I don't think he ever did over 25 mph regardless of road conditions. He was scared of motorways, very critical of other motorists. I was 18 when he died and my mother and I immediately took driving lessons and shared the car he'd left. I'd find life pretty hard without a car but I don't use it as much as I used to as London public transport is so brilliant (and free!). Or at least that's how I used to feel. I can't imagine getting on a bus or the tube right now..
I love driving and couldn't wait to pass my test. Now 60 I still love the freedom of going off for a drive. Love motorways and enjoy driving in France too.
I loved driving it gave me my freedom. On the weekend I would just get up jump in the car go shopping have breakfast and then just tootle around. Then 3years ago my eyesight got so bad I had to give it up. One of the worse days of my life. I now have to ask others for lifts or pay for taxis etc. I hate relying on others waiting for them to find the time etc. I really miss my freedom?
My FiL in his mid 90s has at last given up driving. A great relief for everyone except him.
He still charges around on his mobility scooter. I don't think he has ever been on a bus!
I hope the next generation won't be so dependant on cars especially with the jammed up roads, pollution and worst of all - accidents.
There are plans afoot to make public transport free for youngsters to get them used to using it and not be given a car for their 17th birthday which seems to happen.
But the covid-19 will have set these plans back.
I am 85 and drive anywhere and everywhere, even abroad. As there is no public transport where I live I would be stranded if I didn't drive.
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