I would like to share with you all, this upsetting PM, which I received this morning from a regular poster, after posting on this thread.
The contents of the PM, which the poster hadn't the courage to post publicly on here follows:
This needs to be said.
"My wonderful SIL has explained to his family that he does not want to put me at risk by asking them and although upset, they understand why they can't come." - the writer quoting my post.
I was shocked when I read the above, swiftly followed by disbelief at your accounts of expeditions to the shops days after the wedding. No risk of covid then?
If I were the groom's mother, I would never forgive you for excluding me from my son's wedding. It doesn't say much for him either.
This was my response.
My SIL's parents died a long time ago, so it would be difficult to come to the wedding. I'm sure they were there in spirit!
Most of my SIL's family live in the USA and all their flights were cancelled due to Covid, so there was no chance of them being there anyway
As I have been shielding since 15th March, my family have rigorously followed the guidelines and stayed out of my home. I have had no physical contact with anyone since the middle of March.
In fact no-one has been inside of my home, apart from my daughter and that was only for the first time last week. I was supposed to be in a bubble with my son and granddaughter, but we didn't go ahead with it.
So absolutely no risk of spreading COVID
As for your jibe at my SIL, this is the kind and caring man, who put his life at risk every week and queued along with drug addicts (who would not maintain distancing) to ensure I got my many medications. He is the best thing that ever happened to my daughter
As for my shopping expeditions, I think three visits to a supermarket in over five months, AFTER Shielding ended isn't excessive by anyone's standards! However, I do NOT need your permission to make the best of the time left for me.
FYI, according to the GOVSCOT shielding letter I received, I was allowed out to the shops after the 31st of July.
However, my husband and I only made our first visit to the supermarket in five months a week AFTER the wedding, that was only because my daughter was on honeymoon!
There were only SIX people at the wedding, my husband and I, the bride and groom and my son and future DIL.
My DIL, SIL, Son and future daughter in law, all self isolated prior to the wedding to ensure it could go ahead and to keep me safe.
As time is running out for me, due to my comorbidities, it was my daughter and her husband, who suggested getting married in our garden, rather than wait another year, in case it was too late.
They followed all the Scottish Govt. guidelines to the letter and the local Registrar was happy with all the proceedings
How dare this mean spirited poster suck the joy from what was a wonderful day.
My SIL's family are over the moon that their brother is now married and happier than he has ever been.
My daughter has already booked a venue for next year, so that ALL friends and family can celebrate together, when it is safe to do so.
Life is tough enough for me just now and to attack me like this in a PM, (cowardly manner) , without even knowing my circumstances.
I would like to thank this poster for ruining what was meant to be a lovely day out today, to a quiet part of the coast with my husband, planned by him to lift my very low spirits. ?
Next time, get your facts right. I won't be sinking to the level of naming and shaming you, but you should be ashamed!
