Son’s wedding dilemma.

Please, please do go you will regret not going and I am sure your son would be so upset if you are not there. Have a wonderful day with them all xx

Hello Bluebellewould
Im sorry for you on the loss of your Husband and for your Son on the loss of his Father.
A son or daughters wedding after such a loss can be a very emotional time. You feeling anxious is perfectly normal and so are your feelings of whether you should go or not. Weddings are known to be a happy occasion but when you are grieving the loss of a loved one who would of been very much involved these feelings can be extremely mixed and even very painful. Your Son obviously loves and cares about you and is very understanding, which is good for you. I don’t know the relationship he had with his Father but if they were close it will be a very difficult time for him too.
My advice would be to seek some support to help you decide. If you do attend his wedding, maybe have some kind of support network, strategies, around you to help you cope. I was thinking possibly your other children could support you or maybe a close friend could attend with you. Sometimes having transport ready, so you can leave when you feel you need too might make you feel more comfortable. I don’t know the layout ect because of Covid but is it possible to sit beside your Son if you feel this would help. These are suggestions, but if you work with your Son, his future wife then maybe you can all come up with something that makes it a little easier for you all, because it sounds like your Son would love to have you there but understands your feelings, maybe you could do this for his sake.
I do hope you can get the right support and feel strong enough to attend your Sons wedding. Hopefully seeing his (their) happiness will give you some joy, comfort, and wonderful memories to look back on. I wish you well in whatever choice you make.

Go My daughter was suppose to be getting married last week, she cancelled her wedding as she wants more than 30 guests , her choice. Hope we are here next year when wedding will now take place

Oh you must go, you are lucky to have such a lovely son and although he won’t pressure you I feel it would spoil his day if you were not there. We all know you will love it and supporting your son on the start of his new life. So nice when are children get married and you feel happy about there future. The bride will want you to be there as well. Hoping you all have a wonderful day.

He sounds an absolutely wonderful son, of course you must go, and please don't worry. Everyone will be careful, just relax and enjoy yourself.

If you have only been out of your house once since the end of March, then perhaps try going out for short walks to acclimatise yourself to leaving the house again, you will be less worried on the day if you have got used to walking around other people at a suitable distance.

Go! Wear a mask in the church as we did for partner’s son’s wedding. There were less than 30 there and it was brilliant, such a special day for the couple and guests. No singing, hugging, kissing, reception but lots of photos, confetti and laughter. You will be fine trust me!! Plus it will cheer you up after such a difficult time. ??

Don't even wonder Bluebellwould. Put on your best smile and celebrate alongside your son and his new wife. He needs you to be there.

Treat yourself to a designer mask and go! Keep your distance but be there! If you don’t wear glasses, even wear a visor! I’m sure people will be careful as a small wedding party ....

If you miss this day you could regret it for ever. Go - we all need to make these steps and be brave . Have a wonderful time. x

another go from me ! have safe fun

Go and enjoy yourself. Take all due care but remember that life is for living!

Just adding another 'go' vote here.

If you choose not to attend, I think you will regret it for the rest of your life. You and your son are obviously close and this will be a very special moment in his life which you should share.

As others have said, be sensible - not paranoid - about how to keep safe. Follow the guidelines (mask, distance, washing hands etc.) and there is little reason not to have a wonderful celebratory day with your son and his new wife.

Definitely go and enjoy every minute, if you don’t you’ll always regret it. Have a wonderful day! x

Go. It's a no-brainer.

Unless things change drastically in your area between now and then I honestly think you would regret it if you didn't go.
As everyone here says, take all sensible precautions and then just relax and enjoy this special day.

You will regret it if you don't. Please go x

Go, we all have to realize that real life has to go on. What are you waiting for? May be there will not be a vaccination, things we do have already changed and are changing. Are you going to spend the rest of your life alone? Embrace life not your fears.

So glad you decided to go as how could you not go ? I wouldn’t have it any other way , not going would have been totally out of the question for me . Enjoy !

GO! - you cannot live your life in fear of 'maybes', if you don't, you will regret it for many years to come

Well congratulations mother of the groom - go - have a wonderful time and see your lovely son marry - have a truly happy day

Agree with all of the above.
Have a safe and wonderfull day.

Go and take sensible precautions. Enjoy yourself.

GO. Maybe you could ask the couple to send out written guidelines re what is acceptable and what not - re distancing, masks. etc. Then no guest can claim they were not aware of the rules and it will be OK to remind anyone.

Mask up and enjoy yourself at your son's wedding. I am sure he would appreciate it and the alternative is a very miserable life until this is over with the WHO talking about it being 2 years!

Having your sons wedding to think about will lift your spirits. Have a wonderful day.