Son’s wedding dilemma.

Marydoll also meant to say ... great response ?

Espee, people who know me, know that I always try to be kind to other posters, so this has taken the feet from me.
However, I wouldn't sink that low, by naming her. She knows who she is.
What I will say is that she is a regular poster.

Marydoll What an awful thing to happen and to you of all people. I hope that you can put it behind you and just remember the special day.

I can’t understand why you would allow this venomous person to remain anonymous. Whoever she/he is needs to be named and shamed. What a piece of work. I don’t understand why you replied explaining yourself either - I wouldn’t give them my time. Just nasty. Please don’t give them another thought.

Marydoll I am astounded. That anyone would go to the trouble of private messaging you with such a nasty message is just beyond me. You stand out as one of the most kind, thoughtful and welcoming GN members and do not deserve to be admonished in any way. What a thoroughly sad and unpleasant person she must be. I know it is difficult, but try to ignore the message, you have so many friends on this site, I can't think she has.

What a stupid, ill-informed, ignorant and cowardly PM that was Marydoll !
I hope the author is still reading this thread and if so I hope she realises what a monumental error of judgement she is guilty of.
Sneaky doesn’t come close.
She should be permanently barred for completely going against the principles of GN - not to say common decency.
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Have a wonderful day have a little trip out first to get used to outside and enjoy the day.

marydoll I am really sorry that you have had this unpleasantness which has upset what must be a rare day out. How very unkind some people can be. Do not let this nastiness spoil your memories of what sounded like a wonderful wedding day.
I hope she, if it is a she, feels totally ashamed of herself.

Marydoll I'm astounded at the cowardly, underhand and ill informed pm you've received. What a peevish and sly message that was. I personally know that you didn't leave your house for the whole time that you were shielding. I also know that had it not been for you immediate family getting your medication and food supplies, you wouldn't have had them. You have nothing to feel bad about Marydoll. You who sent the pm on the other hand, have much to feel bad about. And ashamed. And embarrassed. You're a disgrace.

Marydoll I hope you reported this person- how low can anybody get?

You have had one helluva year being in hospital, becoming extremely ill from the side effects and almost not making it. I am very well aware of RA, not personally but professionally and that life is not easy for you on a good day.

There are many of us who are behind you and this person should be named and shamed.

Thank you all again for your kind supportive posts. Marydoll, I am so sorry you got such a horrid message. Don’t let the messenger ruin any more of your time. Name and shame if you like, it might save someone else from being hurt in the same way.
My point about there being a lot of nurses at the wedding was the raised risk of infection from them as they deal with patients.
My outfit is a lilac dress with dropped hem at the back, which I will wear with a navy jacket and shoes, and tie a matching ribbon on my walking stick, and matching face mask.
It should make for some interesting photos to look back on, won’t it?

Your outfit sounds lovely and wishing you and yours a wonderful day bluebell.

The type of person who would take the time and trouble to write to you personally with such an ill-judged and thoughtless (nay, sick) mail is a very troubled person.

Please take heart that the author of such a mail is jealous of your wonderfully happy day and just wants to spoil your well deserved happiness.

Don't let them.

You have many wonderful memories of that special day. They don't - which is why they want to spoil yours.

Don't let them!.

Go please xxx

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Enjoy your day, with your mask and social distancing regardless of nonsense in last post

Bluebellwould don't worry about the nurses as they are in an occupation where they are probably as well-protected as anyone can be, and the environment hygienic as it can be. I agree with silverlining48 though, do have some outings before then so you're not feeling overly worried on the day. Have a wonderful time, you deserve it.

Lucy2

I cannot believe you are recommending hydroxychloroquine.
That is antimalarial medication! That is NOT a preventive measure!

Masks are destroying our immune system?

Someone has been listening to Donald

Hydroxychloroquine is also a common RA drug, which requires monitoring and annual eye tests.
Not the best of advice to give.

Bluebellewould, your outfit sounds lovely. I do like the idea of the matching mask and ribbon on your walking stick. I wish I had thought of that.

Marydoll ???? We all admire and love you for your funny novellas and positive aspect on life. Keep going my friend.

Lucy2

By all means go ! Just have some hydroxychloroquine, zinc and a Z-pack on hand if your doctor will give it to you. All this mask and human spacing is just destroying our immune systems. Such a unnecessary loss of life because of terrible medical tyranny. Have a great time and God bless you!

There’s bonkers advice and there’s dangerous bonkers advice.
Now, how to put this politely?
To suggest our immune systems are being destroyed by a few months’ social distancing and wearing of face coverings in a closed spaces is, well, bonkers.
Medical tyranny? That would be like sterile operating theatres/delivery rooms/equipment/syringes and scalpels, right? Dreadful things- of course nobody ever died under the knife or in childbirth in the olden days when our immune systems hadn’t “been destroyed” by nasty antiseptics.
I think by all means go is what most people would counsel, take sensible precautions, trust your own common sense, and stick to the guidelines which are clearly being observed.
And enjoy it!
As for the hydro-whatsit and the sync and a Z pack whatever that is, forget them!

Just ignore the malicious poster, she had no right to PM you.
Do not name and shame as you need to be the better person, and it is obvious you are. Like you said you do not want to stoop to that level.
I hope the person who sent you that message reads this thread and reflects on what they have done.

There’s bonkers advice and there’s dangerous bonkers advice.
Now, how to put this politely?

Sometimes politeness just doesn't get through!
Lucy2 please do not give out unsolicited, dangerous pseudo medical advice on public forums.

Oh Marydoll what an awful thing for someone to do. I hope you manage to rise above it, you’re much better than that person is and remember what goes around comes around. Stay strong and keep smiling.