Having a down day

Agree with Illte. We must do our own risk assessment, make our own choices but we must respect the choices made by others.

Fair enough. Your decision (and hers) your risk.

But others are making different decisions for themselves and their children. And that's right for them.

As long as you don't then take your risk to others and keep your distance from them.

ellenvallin I totally agree I ve had bugs with my teen grandkids for weeks not every day I don’t see them that much but when I do we have a hug I cannot live a life of fear

I hugged my GGD yesterday, who was full of a cold, lives a long way away in a different area etc etc. I hadn't seen her since March and because she's only just turned 12 isn't in the teenage bracket but I wasn't bothered anyway.
One gets fed up living like a leper.

Hugs and cuddles are natural and normal but these times are not natural or normal. Perhaps the parents are concerned for you and for their children. Could you promise not to cuddle and just play chasing games or kicking the ball about with lots of laughter and blowing kisses.
Not ideal but better than feeling so low, hope you feel brighter soon.

I suppose I think a hug is nice and yes it's a natural thing, but we don't have to hug people in order to enjoy being with them, not even grandchildren.

Maybe the parents let the grandson out into the garden if they could feel confident the OP would keep distance.

Ultimately its their choice and what they feel safe with.

i don’t entirely understand the overriding need to hold and hug it’s a natural normal need in humans and in most animals
Are the children ill? Or are you in a high risk area it sounds so extreme there are babies and toddlers out and about in the streets and shops where I live

They have to do what feels safe to them. Cuddling your grandchildren might make you feel good but then it might produces days of anxiety for them. I must admit I don't entirely understand the overriding need to hold and hug.

You obviously feel they are too extreme but do they think you are too relaxed? How much other mixing are you doing?

My friend who mixes freely with family and friends, sharing car rides abs even going to parties thinks she's being careful but I wouldn't let her visit me.

Whose doing the shielding and why. You have been able to meet with family For weeks or are you all living in a very high risk area?
Is the baby or the 2 year old ill children ?
Well I d be miserable in your situation it all sounds very extreme

Oh I feel for you- did you read the thread about OCD being made so much worse by Covid19? Many of us find ourselves in the same predicament and of course can't say anything. So rant away here- I am with you all the way x

Goodness Joanna, I am so sorry, that is extreme, is there a reason for them to be so very afraid? If they are not following the guidance from the UK.Gov, which would allow you to meet up inside, socially distanced, unless you are on your own and forming a bubble with them, in which case you can cuddle your grandchildren.

Are they trying to protect you or themselves?

I thought some of our family were rather taking it to extremes, but they will at least come into the garden with us. Perhaps they are worried that the two and a half year old might run up to you, but they could put him/her on reins if that was their worry?