Confused ? why do people always think ? I am as old as them

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Thank you for that comment.
I have been on thorns since yesterday thinking I might have upset you with my jokey reply.
Obviously you have my sense of humour.

It is the opposite with me. Twice this week I have been asked if I am still working- I will be 77 in a few weeks time so no I am not.

Please share your secrets, Charleygirl!

NanaDH, you might retort with:
Few women admit their age; few men act it.

And for the fellows on Gransnet:
I grew a beard thinking it would say "Distinguished Gentleman." Instead, turns out it says, "Senior Discount, Please!"

It is the opposite with me. Twice this week I have been asked if I am still working- I will be 77 in a few weeks time so no I am not.

I feel your pain ann

I’m very pleased to hear that, Luckygirl (and thank you).

I posted this a few months ago but will repeat it.
My friend was taking some things to a charity shop before lockdown, I was with her, and when she opened her boot for us to do some shopping the woman in the car next to us remarked about a pretty ornament on top.
My friend explained and said please take it.
I noticed a folding chair side table and said oh I would like that.
The other woman said to my friend, I was going to ask for that as well but your mother obviously wants it.
My friend is 3 years younger than me.

Maggiemaybe - not flippant at all - I have never been officially diagnosed and do not have the full gamut of symptoms, but my doc friend is convinced I have it. I would go and have it investigated if the symptoms were bad enough and there was any useful treatment - but there isn't. Having younger skin is the pay-off.

My come back would be " un-like yourself i am not in the departure lounge".

This always annoyed my mother who had white hair since her 20s. When she went out with her mil and grans sister everyone presumed they were 3 sisters.

Went to Waitrose with a friend after being out for lunch. The lad behind the tills asked me very loudly how my mum was doing today. I’m 65 and very dear friend is 76! I’m not sure if she heard or pretended not to......

I don’t mine being old to a younger person☺️It’s the over 80,s that think I am the same age as me that bother me?

I know a few older ladies that are old enough to be my mother and although they know my age they always say "we". We remember the war, we used to do this, etc. I think they do it deliberately to either upset me or make themselves feel better.

Cannot understand why age is so important and some people have to keep telling you how old they are!

I overheard a comment while in the loo at work. A change in offices meant I was taking calls meant for someone else. It was all complimentary until the lady said I cant believe she hasnt retired yet. I was 52.

It can go the other way. Someone asked me yesterday where my children went to school. I don’t look younger than my years, so I’m assuming the person who asked either can’t work out the maths or doesn’t know about female biology.

NanaDH, you're 61, so of course you're 'old' to a younger person. Why is that a problem?

'Old' is not bad - so why such negativity?

As for grey hair, well, a lot of young women are choosing to have their hair dyed silver right now!

A few years ago, I had had a very difficult time after suffering alopecia totalis. My confidence was non-existent. I had at last had a hair system fitted and was feeling so much better.
I went out with my sister who is 9 years younger than me. We met a woman she knew who said 'Oh hello S.. I haven't seen you for ages.' Then, looking at me said ,' This must be your mum'. Why assume? Back down went my confidence.

I started going properly 'grey' in my 40's but as it became such a lovely white colour which suited my complexion I decided to stick with it and put up with looking at least 10 years older than my friends. It does take thick skin though, and I remember being delighted when I got my bus pass because I felt I had finally got to an age which suited my hair!

I don’t know why shop assistants and others feel the need to make assumptions - and voice them - about age or relationships, especially when they are so often wrong.
Unless it is to offer a concession.
Nobody questions my status now as a senior citizen, but in my first teaching job back in 1968 I was travelling home one day on the same bus as many pupils. So embarrassed, and flattered, when the conductor asked me if I wanted half fare!

I was being served in M&S the other year and the assistant looked to be (at least) in her 50’s. Commenting on different branches I said how I didn’t like driving to a particular store despite its reputation for being a better one. I didn’t want to admit it was because it was in a rough (almost industrial estate) area, but instead said it was because I found the dual carriageways and huge roundabouts confusing. “Oh but you are good, to be still driving” she said “my mum has had to give up now”
I wondered to myself how old she thought I was and resolved to wear more lippy in future.

I worked with a woman with the same surname as me, but no relation, on a bank counter. She was about 12 years younger than me, a lovely lass, but a bit ‘blowsy’ and very matey with the male customers. I suppose I came across as more stand offish!

One day, a chap stood in front of us, looked at our name plates, and said “Are you mother and daughter?”

. “Just how old do you think I am?’ I hissed.

My colleague was delighted, I was livid, the bloke was embarrassed.

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Ah no, I’m not. I’m sorry for being so flippant, Luckygirl, I really hadn’t realised that EDS was such a complicated syndrome. I do hope you don’t suffer from the other symptoms it can cause.

You’ve a very apt username, Luckygirl! . I’m off to google EDS now and am prepared to be very, very jealous.

I have a very dear friend who hasn’t aged well (sorry Caron).
When a chap knocked at the door to see her - he asked her husband if his Mam was in!!!

I have had this too on many occasions some people are just idiots!. It always upsets me though I know it shouldn’t! I try to look as nice as I can for my 56 years but to be mistaken for someone in their 70’s is not great for the ego?‍♀️