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Confused ? why do people always think ? I am as old as them

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Luckygirl Sat 05-Sept-20 21:42:46

I have the opposite problem! My hair is long and dark brown - no grey. I am 71. And I also have few wrinkles (sorry folks) - a doctor friend of mine thinks I have some syndrome (EDS) that means my skin does not wrinkle as much as most. I have a lot of the other symptoms too.

I had to take a prescription to the chemist the other day and I happened to have my hair in plaits that day which is not suitable for a pensioner at all! - the lady behind the counter took a lot of convincing that I really was the person on the prescription.

I am hoping that eventually my hair will turn white as my grandmother's did.

NanaDH Sat 05-Sept-20 21:13:00

Glorybee, like the age reference that would work well. Thank you

Glorybee Sat 05-Sept-20 20:58:45

You could say, ‘I don’t think I look too bad for 103!’

Callistemon Sat 05-Sept-20 20:51:57

Oh dear nanadh I do understand, to remember food shortages someone would need to be at least 95

No! Not at all. I remember rationing, it went on until 1953.
I don't have a grey hair (well, maybe one or two but not many).

varian Sat 05-Sept-20 20:51:14

I suppose you could experiment by colouring your hair to see if it makes any difference.

Callistemon Sat 05-Sept-20 20:49:59

My MIL always referred to my mother as being the same generation as her own mother!
It drove my mother mad as there was only 5 years between them. Incidentally, my ma still had dark hair but my MIL had white hair.

annsixty Sat 05-Sept-20 20:48:05

Silverlining
How very dare you?
I was born 2 years before the 2nd World War started so I remember food shortages very well.
When I reach 95 I will check back to see if I still remember those days!!???

NanaDH Sat 05-Sept-20 20:30:29

I. Am so glad I am not the only one ?like your response Phoenix I could use that one maybe? Blue sky yours I think I could get away with. I did have a young colleague who thought I was in my 30 s That did make my day? Do any of you think; like me older people Do not believe they are As OLD As they are?

Kate1949 Sat 05-Sept-20 19:45:23

When I was working and complaining about my job at work, a man said 'You needn't worry, you'll be retiring soon'. I was 45!

silverlining48 Sat 05-Sept-20 19:43:06

Oh dear nanadh I do understand, to remember food shortages someone would need to be at least 95. grin.

I have been mistaken as grandmother of my first baby. Twice. By two different (very short sighted ) women on two different occasions. Once i had even washed my hair and put a bit of makeup on! What a beautiful grandchild she said. The other said something about me being a proud gran. I was 26.

Another time in M&S with a friend (who was a little older than me,) an assistant said how nice my ‘daughter’ looked in the jacket she was trying. My daughter? I shrieked!

Yet a couple of years ago I was asking about a flu jab and the pharmacist would not believe I was old enough to have one. I was 70. It made my day, he didn’t need glasses! But many others do.

Sorry I don’t have any one liners but will watch this post in case a good one comes along.

phoenix Sat 05-Sept-20 19:34:34

NanaDH perhaps you could say "I think you are confusing me with an old(er) person?"

BlueSky Sat 05-Sept-20 19:22:27

You made me laugh! When I was still in work a male colleague about 10/15 years older than myself mentioned the war. I replied before my time! He apologised profusely saying he wasn't thinking straight that day. But it did knock my confindence!

phoenix Sat 05-Sept-20 19:10:41

Oh NanaDH, you have my sympathy!

The lady of the house where we rent the premises where I work (hope this makes sense?) will often say to me "phoenix, of course you will understand, that at our age...."

She's 89, I'm 62!

're reading that, it hasn't come across quite right confused.......

NanaDH Sat 05-Sept-20 19:03:29

I am 61. I have very white grey hair ( Not dyed), since I was about 30. This problem has been on going since then but with the introduction of masks it is becoming a daily occurrence. Today was the worst, an older lady whom I was serving at work in the supermarket, said “of course you would remember that during the war, we got use to food shortages”! Last week I popped in to see if my daughter in law was back at work. The lady I spoke to told DIL “ an old lady came in to see you today”!! GS 12; when he realised it was me thought that was hilarious. I am the all modern, up and going NANA with 2 children, 6 grandchildren. What should I do or say when this happens? Any one liners? Welcome. ( that won’t get me the sack) Thank you ?