Luca, I realise that but I had made comment earlier on OP predicament, also mentioned that new rules would make it impossible for her to visit her daughter any way unless they lived in Scotland or Wales when children don't count towards the 6 total. I was just replying to previous posters about family size. I agree with many that OP SIL needs to pull his socks up, they are his children too and as he doesn't work, should put in more effort and support his wife. And as MIL is wealthy maybe they could get in some temporary home help or au pair. I think the 6 rule does not apply to workers in someone's home but that would need checking. OP lives far away and has a job that is not flexible so hard as it seems she cannot down tools and be with her daughter. At the moment, hospitals are not allowing partners into some labour wards either or if they do for only a limited amount of time. It is tough on the mum to be. I think she would best consider some live in help,if they have the space and the cash, if her husband still refuses to help at all..