Even later in the 80s it wasn't much better in some places!
I found that you were asked questions when you certainly weren't in the right frame of mind !
In my case, my son was an IDIU (infant death in utero) and had already passed away before I was in labour, I remember on the morning that I was induced after being given pain relief (not to mention sleeping pills the night before) I was asked if I wanted to see my baby and to this day I don't know why I said no. I wish that I had been asked again later when my answer would have been different.
But at least we had a funeral and offered help with the grieving process by my GP as well as the local vicar.
My aunt never spoke about what happened to her daughter - apparently until my son was born. In the early 70s, it was almost as if it was hushed up on the same level as abortion. She had no idea what happened to her baby at all beyond the fact that it would be "taken care of".
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