son and family moving away

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You people are cruel for making this person feel bad about her loss. Telling her “oh well, my child is thousands of miles away and you should be grateful is wrong! She is hurting and deserves to feel her hurt. Everyone is different, some families are okay with some of them miles and miles away. Others grieve terribly over a loss a few hours away. Find some compassion for this person who is hurting. Take yourselves out of your own world for a moment. We should all be compassionate toward others’ pain and sadness. Shame on those of you who were judgmental. Maybe life has graced you all, but to others life can be painful and sad. Give this person a break from judgment please!

It might make it better, in that the quality of your time together will change. My son and DIL are local. To be honest, apart from the times I looked after the children, we’ve never seen them that much. An hour or two here and there. My DIL’s family live three hours away, and every holiday my son has, and has had over the last twelve years or so, is spent visiting them. One year, I roughly counted up the hours we’d seen them, against the other grandparents, and theirs was more. We honestly don’t begrudge it, they’re making the best of everything, but I feel they’ve spent weekends and evenings with my son since he’s been married. We haven’t had this. Don’t make a thing of it, and you’ll probably be pleasantly surprised.

NannyDee

Two hours! Our son and his family moved to Australia...we’ve seen them 3 times in 8 years. I wish they were even in the same country as us.

We have one son and family in Vancouver; the other and his family are in perth, WA! Last saw them 3 years ago

I think perspectives change depending on what you are used to, as far as distance. Once I would have seen two hours as a long way. My own mother was devastated when we moved an hour and a half away. Now that we are on different continents, we both wish we were just two hours apart. For me, two hours is now just a day trip I don't think twice about.

whogoesthere, I understand that when you're used to have family very close it is upsetting to know they won't be the same easy distance away and that getting together will take more planning. If you are used to seeing them once a week, it might become once a month. For some that would be too often, for others, not enough. You can still have a meaningful relationship with your children and grandchildren at that distance. Hopefully you might even come to enjoy the trip to visit. You might discover nice places to stop for a meal when traveling to or from a visit that adds to the experience. Sometimes you might be able to meet at a midway point. What does your family picture as how often you will see each other when they have moved? Maybe discussing this with them will help? It might allay your fears when you know what to expect.

whogoesthere I’m so sorry to read this. You must be very upset. I would have expected a bit more sympathy from others .
Perhaps instead of the weekly contact you are used to you can visit for a few days at a time. Or go on holiday together? I know it will be hard adjusting though xx

It's a change for you and the uncomfortableness of that is understandable. It's just going to be different so process the reality and then start planning the "new reality" in terms of face time, visits, fun ways to connect etc.

I don't drive but I regularly make the three hour train journey to see one daughter. It's quicker (and nicer) than driving anyway. Another child lives in NZ and I'm lucky to see him once a year. We all Zoom every week though.

I think you need time to process the news.

Thinking 2 hours of car trip will make you lose contact with the kids very black and white and extreme.

2 hours is nothing!

Two hours sounds like heaven to me! I have one GC about two hours away from us and compared to my other GC it feels as though she lives almost next door.

We moved 2 hours away from my parents, before emails and FaceTime and the Internet, the children stayed each holiday, I collected my parents ( they didn’t drive) and brought them up to stay with us.

The children were taken to see them several weekends a year.

Our children and my parents were so very close and remained so until my parents died.

Two hours? One son just under two hours.....the other in Sydney.

NannyDee

Two hours! Our son and his family moved to Australia...we’ve seen them 3 times in 8 years. I wish they were even in the same country as us.

Ditto!

Don't move closer whatever you do. Younger people often move because of job changes. I remember when we lived in Suffolk an elderly moved from Kent because her daughter had moved. A few years later, daughter moved back to Kent and mum followed soon after.

I have a friend in Suffolk (now 80+) who when she sold her house in our village considered moving to the town where her son lived on a new housing estate. She eventually realised that he wouldn't be there to help her in an emergency because he worked in London so she bought a house in a nearby village with more facilities. She new people there and also still had her friends in the original village. When she was suddenly taken ill it was a friend who drove her to hospital because her children were at work and not immediately available.

She had forgotten how important friends are.

Two hours! Our son and his family moved to Australia...we’ve seen them 3 times in 8 years. I wish they were even in the same country as us.

Two hours? A lot of grans on here including me, wish our DGC were only two hours away!

Two hours, a piffling journey. Half the distance we drive, and we are in constant contact - and the excitement when we see each other, absolutely no question of losing contaact.

2 hours ??? Really- this is just a short drive and simple to drive there and back in one day. How can this amount to losing contact?

Two hours? Why on earth would you lose contact? You can phone, facetime/zoom and they can come and visit you.We regularly see family who live two hours drive away.
True, you can’t just pop in, but it’s not as if they have emigrated to Australia.

I am sure you need not lose contact. It will be a time of adjustment for all of you. A change of routine but it's still a journey you can make in a day or calls for overnight stays sometimes.
You will make it work if you want to.
One of our DC and DGC is 12 thousand miles away but we speak often on whatsapp and we feel really very close.

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