Simple tips to make life easy

You definitely need time to yourself, also respite care is important if caring is ongoing. What about the disabled person going to a day centre, if appropriate. When my parents were elderly, we made meals and soup for them , froze everything and then transported it to their own freezer. Dad, who was my mother’s carer, was thrilled that he longer had to think about shopping and cooking. The carers who were eventually employed, thought it was a great idea and it saved them a lot of work, also.

I bought a white shower mat to blend in with my white bath. It makes me more confident when having a shower standing in a bath tub. I had a glass screen put in. Much nicer than the old style shower curtain. 2 corner shelfs on the wall for body wash and shampoo. I have an over the door Hook bar In my bathroom and find it so useful. It has a travel bag hanging and a useful pocket hanging thing. This saves on clutter on the shelves.

Kylie sheets!
A lot of people aren't aware of them, and they can save an absolute mountain of washing.

Many of you know that I have Alzheimers. My CH has gained so much support from the local carers association. They are a fountain of knowledge and have signposted us to other services.

Everyday things he recommends: keep a filing system of correspondence, keep a 'hospital ready' bag packed for the unexpected and make sure someone else knows how to access it. Appoint a trusted keyholder or install a keysafe, stock the freezer, ensure GP and other medics will share the PWD's medical information with you, enlist a hairdresser and foot therapist for home visits, find a trusted trader for urgent appliance repairs, never neglect your own health. Don boxing gloves to fight your corner.

He will come back with any other things.

A lesson I learned when DH was ill was to get rest and time to meet up with friends. If you feel ok yourself you are a better carer. Love to all in this situation

Most important is a saying that I learnt on a parentingcourse: you can't pour from an empty jug. It is essential to arrange for time to renew your strength, every day. And also, don't even try to be perfect. Just be good enough. We are fallible human beings, and aiming for perfection is exhausting.
Your suggestion of paying for help with cleaning, gardening etc. is excellent.
Best wishes with your course.

Enrol with a carers centre. Lots of local info, opportunities to meet other carers, advice on benefits , complementary therapies. Amazing staff too.

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Don’t beat yourself up if you feel You haven’t been patient enough, practical advice is helpful but it’s the emotional stuff which is as important to talk about. The guilt the resentment and irritation sometimes is excusable and understandable. We do our best but we are human and fallible.Forgive yourself and remember what a good job you are doing.

Very important silverlinings!! We say this at every single session.

We do always say that our Carer's should take all help offered and should use a sitting service (in normal times) and to just go out.

As I said in the op, most of them will be entitled to AA (which is not means tested) and is worth about £50 per on the basic level. This can also allow a reduction in Council Tax so the money shouldn't be an issue really.

I was hoping people could suggest simple everyday things that make life less of a chore.

For instance one of our lovely men Carer's was amazed with what he found in the freezer section of the supermarket. He had dismissed it as 'all frozen ready meals'.

I'm hoping to compile a list of suggestions.

Don’t beat yourself up if you feel You haven’t been patient enough, practical advice is helpful but it’s the emotional stuff which is as important to talk about. The guilt the resentment and irritation sometimes is excusable and understandable. We do our best but we are human and fallible.Forgive yourself and remember what a good job you are doing.

If you are caring for someone with a life limiting illness, do make use of your local hospice. They look after families too, and can provide counselling and all sorts of complementary therapy to carers, as well as financial advice.

When I was a DN I used to recommend that carers always have something to look forward to for themselves so have something regular in the diary like a back massage or a pedicure - sore backs and aching feet are exhausting. You can get a visiting therapist if you cant get out. Money well spent.

It is a lovely idea having a cleaner and/or a gardener but it is the sheer cost. Even a takeaway is not cheap these days and one I would think is on a limited amount of money. Life is not easy.

I would think that "me" time is very important to keep sane.

Remembering how “invaded” I thought I would feel when we had six weeks of carers for Paw and I really resisted -for all of 24 hours, then welcomed them with open arms - I would say take all help offered and somehow “ring fence” some time of your own by using sitters/carers anybody.
I do agree using laundry services can take a load off the practical side.