Mum & money

Perhaps she feels it’s their way of contributing, if you are cooking etc?

Maybe years ago they were the ones doing all that.

If it makes her happy to give you some cash towards the meal, I would thank her and accept it graciously, but say there is no need.

Their company is what you want.

Perhaps they have been used to giving you money for things in the past. I often offer to pay for my son's train ticket etc as he is having problems at the moment.

I don't think you should feel hurt, maybe they were of a generation who found laying on a very nice meal for guests would be a strain on the finances. Aside from that aspect, guests often bring contributions wine, chocolates anyway. Just thank her say "I appreciate the gesture but I don't need it".

Enjoy the lunch regardless.

I think your Mum is simply being gracious, giving and thinks this is a nice way of thanking you.

Accept the money in the spirit it is being given.

Would she normally have brought something like a pudding or a cake but doesn't feel up to doing that now?

Please don't be hurt or offended or tell her tgat you are. Xx

Don’t be hurt or offended. I do this sometimes with my family. We have moved to a small flat so can no longer reciprocate, we are often invited a day or two before so not much time to arrange a contribution.
I feel better about accepting if I make a contribution. I just transfer a sum and say nothing. when they thank me I just tell them it was such a lovely meal and I’d like them to treat themselves as a thank you from us.
I never thought about them being hurt or offended. Crikey, I hope not.

Cossy

I think your Mum is simply being gracious, giving and thinks this is a nice way of thanking you.

Accept the money in the spirit it is being given.

I agree with this.

You could say "you dont have to, or need to do that".
But she may still do it anyway.

When my son in law offers to do things for us like taking a load to the tip I always give him the petrol money even though he says there is no need . I have never thought of him being offended. It is just that we have more disposable income than they do and I like to preserve some measure of independence.

Your taking away your mother’s joy of giving. Accept gracefully.

Maybe as PP says they have disposable income which is not being spent. Accept and say thank you, you dont need to but it will pay for the wine or dessert. And put it towards the next bottles of wine.

I often do the same for my AC. I dont think they are offended. Often say its petrol money especially when DD2 has a long drive to visit us regularly.
My Dad did the same for me!

Dont be offended....life is too short to take offence.