Am I being overdramatic

Sounds like you are doing all you can Tooyoung I don't understand why your family are not happy with the dog being in her kennel, sounds like it is an ideal place for her.
Once things are back on an even keel perhaps you could have an honest talk with your family and see if there is some compromise to be reached.

My DM's Staffie was afraid of children and very 'responsible' for DM so she was very confused, nervous - and dangerous - around the GC. But she had a cage beside my DM's chair and felt safe, relaxed and secure in there. And the GC were safe on the outside. When they got bigger they would feed her biscuits through the cage bars - but she was still obviously too nervous to risk being out of the cage with them. A cage may look like a cage to us but in a dog's eyes it can be a secure, safe den.

Thanks for your replies, I have a kennel out the back but they said they don't want me to put the dog out the house so they can visit, it's a big proper kennel with heating and two separate areas for sleeping and play.
I have offered to make another separate sitting room upstairs with locks on the door so no one could get in.

I take on board all you have said and I do feel the same way as most of you, but thought as dog was no where near child area and her issues are worked on, they are going on her previous behaviour and lockdown isn't helping

I can't go to their home due to lockdown as some suggested.

I suppose I will just have to suck it up at the minute, and with winter coming they won't let him out much. I say that because on a cold day he's not allowed out.

Thanks again ladies your comments are appreciated

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I m with all the other posters I wouldn’t be at all happy for my three month old baby to go to a house with a clingy (maybe jealous) dog
As you’re ‘too dammed young to be a grandma’ and it all sounds a bit petty when you talk of their ‘fancy pram’ I wouldn’t worry too much Carry on visiting when you can and don’t push them beyond what they are comfortable with

I love dogs - and babies. But the dog is yours and the baby is theirs and they feel very strongly about their child's safety.

I can't think why you would want to face the potential risks or take on the responsibility. The parents are determined that you don't and especially since you have a dog with behavioural problems. The baby and dog don't need to be together nor is it advisable under any circumstances. Seeing the baby regularly at their home where they and you can completely relax and not worry about pets is surely the answer and should avoid your dog regressing because of jealousy when you have been working so hard to improve her behaviour.

Agree. Dogs and babies - no. My baby son was bitten by a dog in the dog's home. This was years ago but I still remember screaming at the dog's owner. I should add that the baby had not been playing with or interfering with the dog.

I had a family member I wouldn't visit because of their dog and the way it behaved. My child wouldn't go into my family member's house as long as that dog was alive. I am with the parents on this one. It's not worth the risk.

I agree with all the posts.....babies and dogs are not a good mix.
See the new baby at their home for now.Later on, have the parents and the baby visit your home, when your dog can be safely left in the garden for an hour, or use a cage.Don’t try and look after their baby in your home on your own, the parents should be there too.You will no doubt be asked to baby sit at their home a bit further down the line.

Why can't you sit with your GC at their house? Seems the best solution if the parents are happy with that.

I definitely would not have a baby in a house with a dog, let alone a clingy one. Its not the dogs fault, but |I think the parents bare right. And it is entirely their decision

I'm with the parents and wouldn't let the baby come to your house!

I don't think I'd risk it, though, Namsnanny..
It would be dreadful if you thought you'd given COVID to a young baby.

I think that at the moment you should not really be seeing him a all.

Is that because of Covid Callistemon? only I thought babies were the safest group.

I think that, at the moment, you should not really be seeing him at all.

It's frustrating and sad but it's best for him.

Sorry I misread (you walk 40 min to them)

So you get to see your gc but not on your territory (your home).

Pick your battles, this is one you won't win and have everything to lose

Btw, babies sleep all the time. They sleep, feed, diaper changes, sleep, feed, diaper change, etc.

Lower your expectations - a 3 month old baby is not supposed to know you.

Even though I am a dog lover Tooyoungtobeadamnedgran I agree with your family. Your dog already has problems and to introduce a baby into the mix is difficult. I am not a fan of cages for dogs but in this instance I think it would be helpful. Get your dog used to going in there as a place of safety not a punishment and she can be safely locked away from the baby. As the baby gets more mobile the problems will only escalate so you need to get a handle on it now, otherwise you may be faced with a choice. I hope you work things out.

I agree. It seems that this dog is unfamiliar with the baby and what's more, is very attached to you. Those two facts would be a recipe if not for disaster but certainly for a very anxious and strained atmosphere.

I'm another one with the parents. I don't trust any dogs near a baby, no matter how "docile and lovely" they are.

I'm another one with the parents.
A dog and someone else's baby, not a good mix in your home.
My son innocently playing in our garden, had his leg ripped open by a neighbour's dog. You cannot guarantee your grandson's safety, no matter how much you love your dog.
The priority here, is the health and safety of your grandson i

I wouldn’t let anyone into my home with a 3 month old at the moment, and I definitely wouldn’t let a child into a house with a dog, no matter how it acted when we were alone.

A dog and a baby is a recipe for disaster as news reports often show.

Walking outdoors is the best you can hope for at the moment.

I wouldn’t want my baby in a house with an animal. My grandmother’s highland terrier bit me on the cheek when I was a toddler.
Your 1 on 1 time with the baby will need to be in their home.

Why do you have to walk the streets? Can you not visit them at their house?

The dog sounds as if it could become very jealous and I wouldn't want it near a small baby.

I'm with parents. By your own admittance you have dog with problems and you want to bring a 3 month old baby into your house?

Can you go to their home? Get an uber?
Video chatting?

What have you suggested that has been rejected?

Apart from the dog issue - totally ok to have them and their fears are valid.

This is the main issue I see - you want to see your gc but he is not able to drive himself to see you as he is a baby, so his parents are the ones doing 99% of the work to make the visit happen.

The parents' priorities are not the same as yours and a visit may not rank up as high in their list.

Their baby, their rules. I'm with them on this. I think because you love your dog you think it won't be a problem. I get that as I love dogs and have had them in the past. However they are anxious about their child's safety. Has the dog gone for them or bitten them in the past? That could be exacerbating their anxiety.