Am I being overdramatic

I must admit, I never went to houses with dogs. I’ve seen a few children get bitten in my time, but they’re happy to let you walk the streets with their baby! Could you not do all the visits to their home? Would that help? It’s a difficult one, but unfortunately they call all the shots and you’ll just have to take what’s on offer.

Sorry if it’s not what you want to hear, but I’m with the parents. A baby and a clingy dog shouldn’t be under the same roof. It’s a potential recipe for disaster.

Their baby, their rules. I'm with them on this. I think because you love your dog you think it won't be a problem. I get that as I love dogs and have had them in the past. However they are anxious about their child's safety. Has the dog gone for them or bitten them in the past? That could be exacerbating their anxiety.

Can you go to their home? Get an uber?
Video chatting?

What have you suggested that has been rejected?

Apart from the dog issue - totally ok to have them and their fears are valid.

This is the main issue I see - you want to see your gc but he is not able to drive himself to see you as he is a baby, so his parents are the ones doing 99% of the work to make the visit happen.

The parents' priorities are not the same as yours and a visit may not rank up as high in their list.

I'm with parents. By your own admittance you have dog with problems and you want to bring a 3 month old baby into your house?

Why do you have to walk the streets? Can you not visit them at their house?

The dog sounds as if it could become very jealous and I wouldn't want it near a small baby.

I wouldn’t want my baby in a house with an animal. My grandmother’s highland terrier bit me on the cheek when I was a toddler.
Your 1 on 1 time with the baby will need to be in their home.

I wouldn’t let anyone into my home with a 3 month old at the moment, and I definitely wouldn’t let a child into a house with a dog, no matter how it acted when we were alone.

A dog and a baby is a recipe for disaster as news reports often show.

Walking outdoors is the best you can hope for at the moment.

I'm another one with the parents.
A dog and someone else's baby, not a good mix in your home.
My son innocently playing in our garden, had his leg ripped open by a neighbour's dog. You cannot guarantee your grandson's safety, no matter how much you love your dog.
The priority here, is the health and safety of your grandson i

I'm another one with the parents. I don't trust any dogs near a baby, no matter how "docile and lovely" they are.

I agree. It seems that this dog is unfamiliar with the baby and what's more, is very attached to you. Those two facts would be a recipe if not for disaster but certainly for a very anxious and strained atmosphere.

Even though I am a dog lover Tooyoungtobeadamnedgran I agree with your family. Your dog already has problems and to introduce a baby into the mix is difficult. I am not a fan of cages for dogs but in this instance I think it would be helpful. Get your dog used to going in there as a place of safety not a punishment and she can be safely locked away from the baby. As the baby gets more mobile the problems will only escalate so you need to get a handle on it now, otherwise you may be faced with a choice. I hope you work things out.

Sorry I misread (you walk 40 min to them)

So you get to see your gc but not on your territory (your home).

Pick your battles, this is one you won't win and have everything to lose

Btw, babies sleep all the time. They sleep, feed, diaper changes, sleep, feed, diaper change, etc.

Lower your expectations - a 3 month old baby is not supposed to know you.

I think that, at the moment, you should not really be seeing him at all.

It's frustrating and sad but it's best for him.

I think that at the moment you should not really be seeing him a all.

Is that because of Covid Callistemon? only I thought babies were the safest group.

I don't think I'd risk it, though, Namsnanny..
It would be dreadful if you thought you'd given COVID to a young baby.

I'm with the parents and wouldn't let the baby come to your house!

Why can't you sit with your GC at their house? Seems the best solution if the parents are happy with that.

I definitely would not have a baby in a house with a dog, let alone a clingy one. Its not the dogs fault, but |I think the parents bare right. And it is entirely their decision

I agree with all the posts.....babies and dogs are not a good mix.
See the new baby at their home for now.Later on, have the parents and the baby visit your home, when your dog can be safely left in the garden for an hour, or use a cage.Don’t try and look after their baby in your home on your own, the parents should be there too.You will no doubt be asked to baby sit at their home a bit further down the line.

I had a family member I wouldn't visit because of their dog and the way it behaved. My child wouldn't go into my family member's house as long as that dog was alive. I am with the parents on this one. It's not worth the risk.

Agree. Dogs and babies - no. My baby son was bitten by a dog in the dog's home. This was years ago but I still remember screaming at the dog's owner. I should add that the baby had not been playing with or interfering with the dog.

I love dogs - and babies. But the dog is yours and the baby is theirs and they feel very strongly about their child's safety.

I can't think why you would want to face the potential risks or take on the responsibility. The parents are determined that you don't and especially since you have a dog with behavioural problems. The baby and dog don't need to be together nor is it advisable under any circumstances. Seeing the baby regularly at their home where they and you can completely relax and not worry about pets is surely the answer and should avoid your dog regressing because of jealousy when you have been working so hard to improve her behaviour.

I m with all the other posters I wouldn’t be at all happy for my three month old baby to go to a house with a clingy (maybe jealous) dog
As you’re ‘too dammed young to be a grandma’ and it all sounds a bit petty when you talk of their ‘fancy pram’ I wouldn’t worry too much Carry on visiting when you can and don’t push them beyond what they are comfortable with

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